Hi I have just joined this group. 9 days ago my partner of 6 years ended our relationship with no warning. Up to the point when he ended it he was telling me he loved me and how we would grow old together. He says there si no one else but at this point I am not convinced. After being together for 4 years and doing the long distance thing I moved to the Uk to be with him. I gave up my job and home and it meant moving away from my adult children and grandcahild and family. As a result most of my family cut me off completely. Also you have to be seperated in Ireland for 5 years before you can divorce so my divorce with my ex husband is ongoing for 8 years ( because he keeps holding it up ) and finally we decided to agree to sell the family home and to split the proceeds. My partner knew all this and left me do all this . I am now locked in to adeal on the house which I cant get out of and which will not leave me with enough money to buy a new house. MY partner says he was having doubts for a while but he just left go in to this agreement. I had thought that once I got my money from the house I would be buying a house with my partner. I would have stuck fast for a better deal if I had known this was coming. ( I have a special needs child ). Now I have decided with no family or friends in the Uk its best if I move back to Ireland. After two years in the UK its not going to be easy. I did manage to get my old job back but am in limbo with housing and I whiel I do have some savings most of it was used up moved to the Uk to be with him two years ago. His divorce is just about to e finalized after years of wrangling and he is in a position to buy a house now. I just get the feeling I was used as a cheap way to live until he got sorted. I have been an idiot I know it . It does not help though because I did love that guy so much. Oh right before he dumped I was on the point of getting an Ms diagnosis from the doctor. I have just found out that I dont have it but feel this had a huge part to play with the split. He was faraid I would be disabled. I feel so angry at hit and when I see it I have to restrain my self from hitting him. I end up verbally abusing him everytime we speak . I hate that because that is not me. I feel like I am losing my mind . Help
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