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My ex-wife is dating a man who is a convicted sex offender charged and convicted of 2 counts of Aggravated Sexuall Assault of a Child.
I just found out last week. Two of her best friends came by my place of work and I was surprised to see them. I thought they hated me because of what I knew she said about me.
THEY DIDN'T THOUGH.
They were as nice as I remembered them when I was married to their friend.
THEN!,
They asked me how often do I speak to my ex-wife and how were our two kids and WHAT DID I KNOW ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND. I told them I see her everyday, see the kids everyday (I work at night and she works days, so she drops them off at school in the morning and I pick them up every afternoon.)
THEN!,
They asked me what do I know about her boyfriend. I said nothing other than the fact that I don't like for obvious reasons. They said they had not spoken to her for 7 months. They said they she asked them to check his background for her (she's computer literate) and they found out and told her that he is a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER, CONVICTED OF 2 CNTS OF AGGRAVATED SEXUALL ASSAULT OF A CHILD!
THE CHILD WAS 6 YEARS OLD!
She's been knowing this for over six month!
She never told me!
She never told her family!
She never told anyone, and after all the arguments that we had because I just asked her not to bring any other men around children while we were making this transition AND SHE REFUSED TO DO IT EVENTHOUGH OUR 2 SMALL CHILDREN (7 AND 12) TOLD HER THEY DID NOT LIKE HIM BEING AROUND!
We had only been divorced for 6 months back then and she would not respect me or them. BUT SHE KNEW ABOUT THIS GUY!
I'm filing for full custody right now, but the fact of the matter is he or she is not breaking any laws. He was sentenced to 10 years in prison 1990 (go figure) and was paroled in 1996.
DOES ANYBODY CARE ABOUT CHILDREN ANYMORE?
DRUG DEALERS AND DRUG ADDICTS GET HARSHER SENTENCES!
I called the police department he is registered with and they told me,
"HE IS NO LONGER ON PAROLE AND HE HAS NO RESTRICTIONS."
He can live where he wants (around parks and shcools), With who he wants (including households with children) and there's not a damn thing I can do about it if he stays in compliance with his order of registration.
He has to check in with the local sex offender authority every 3 months for the rest of his.
As long as he does that, HE'S A REGULAR CITIZEN JUST LIKE YOU AND ME.
I've been to family court before and 99.99% of the time MEN GET SCREWED WHEN THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SCREWED.
I'M PRAYING TO GOD THAT SOMEONE HAS MORALS AND A CONSCIENCE THIS TIME BECAUSE THE STRAIGHT LETTER OF THE LAW JUST DOESN'T HELP.
I don't knwo what else to do.
I'm all out of options and I don't want to use the last option that I have.
But then again, I really do want to use it.
I just found out last week. Two of her best friends came by my place of work and I was surprised to see them. I thought they hated me because of what I knew she said about me.
THEY DIDN'T THOUGH.
They were as nice as I remembered them when I was married to their friend.
THEN!,
They asked me how often do I speak to my ex-wife and how were our two kids and WHAT DID I KNOW ABOUT HER BOYFRIEND. I told them I see her everyday, see the kids everyday (I work at night and she works days, so she drops them off at school in the morning and I pick them up every afternoon.)
THEN!,
They asked me what do I know about her boyfriend. I said nothing other than the fact that I don't like for obvious reasons. They said they had not spoken to her for 7 months. They said they she asked them to check his background for her (she's computer literate) and they found out and told her that he is a REGISTERED SEX OFFENDER, CONVICTED OF 2 CNTS OF AGGRAVATED SEXUALL ASSAULT OF A CHILD!
THE CHILD WAS 6 YEARS OLD!
She's been knowing this for over six month!
She never told me!
She never told her family!
She never told anyone, and after all the arguments that we had because I just asked her not to bring any other men around children while we were making this transition AND SHE REFUSED TO DO IT EVENTHOUGH OUR 2 SMALL CHILDREN (7 AND 12) TOLD HER THEY DID NOT LIKE HIM BEING AROUND!
We had only been divorced for 6 months back then and she would not respect me or them. BUT SHE KNEW ABOUT THIS GUY!
I'm filing for full custody right now, but the fact of the matter is he or she is not breaking any laws. He was sentenced to 10 years in prison 1990 (go figure) and was paroled in 1996.
DOES ANYBODY CARE ABOUT CHILDREN ANYMORE?
DRUG DEALERS AND DRUG ADDICTS GET HARSHER SENTENCES!
I called the police department he is registered with and they told me,
"HE IS NO LONGER ON PAROLE AND HE HAS NO RESTRICTIONS."
He can live where he wants (around parks and shcools), With who he wants (including households with children) and there's not a damn thing I can do about it if he stays in compliance with his order of registration.
He has to check in with the local sex offender authority every 3 months for the rest of his.
As long as he does that, HE'S A REGULAR CITIZEN JUST LIKE YOU AND ME.
I've been to family court before and 99.99% of the time MEN GET SCREWED WHEN THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO BE SCREWED.
I'M PRAYING TO GOD THAT SOMEONE HAS MORALS AND A CONSCIENCE THIS TIME BECAUSE THE STRAIGHT LETTER OF THE LAW JUST DOESN'T HELP.
I don't knwo what else to do.
I'm all out of options and I don't want to use the last option that I have.
But then again, I really do want to use it.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
Do what is best for them, she obviously is only looking out for herself.
This is one of those things that you fight to the end for.
Please understand that divorce decrees and custody terms are fluid. "Modifications" are made all the time. It appears that this is one of those times. You may need your witnesses to testify that she knew about this long ago and never notified you of it.
For some stupid reason, this is actually written into my divorce papers. She has to notify me if she has any sex offenders within proximity of my daughter. I think they'd give my daughter to me outright if this was going on. Give it a shot.
Your lawyer is the best person to handle this right now. Talk to your kids and remind them that they can tell you ANYTHING!!
You have every right to be very worried about this situation. Jail time does not fix whatever is wrong with a person that can committ such a crime.
To me and most other people with simple morals and values this is simply not acceptable!
You are in my thoughts x
So keep fighting, show you care, like you are. Stay involed and make sure you are there anytime the kids need you. Talk with them and make sure they undersatnd that they can contact you anytime and talk about anything.
Good Luck!