Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My 1st court day is coming on July 11th - I was granted temp custody by the lady judge (not really a surprise because of the abuse) but I'm feeling wired as I have NEVER in over 20 years of marriage been on the opposite side of my husband in a legal matter. I keep having to tell myself - it was his choice by getting angry and not getting help when offered. still, sitting in a court room not in support of each other is so surreal. The nice lady judge told me not to have a false sense of safety as TRO is only a piece of paper. Said I understood that. Still - I feel fuzzy - like maybe I want to wake up and this would have all been a nightmare....but I know it is not a nightmare. and i will have to be strong enough to travel down this road.....stbx told me today on the telephone "I'm trying" to do better....I said, you have been telling me that for over 2 years and things have only gotten worse, I don't want to hear "I'm trying" anymore (I did say it kindly) but still....is it normal to feel strange when all of this is happening?
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
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Today is my 25th birthday, to my somewhat lack of surprise I can see already no one really seems to care. I've always been the kinda person to make sure that everyone I Care about feels appreciated and knew somebody had their back. I can count 4 times this year when I Went out of my way to make sure a "friend" felt good on their birthday, especially if they got left hanging. Its early in the...
Someone explained it like this to me recently - you've been married a long time and that has become your reality. Knowing that it is no longer your reality causes your mind to feel a lot of discomfort. Don't know if that makes sense or not - but I've definitely felt what you are feeling.
Please understand you are not alone-this community site is good for you and be sure to build up a support system-that is so important.
I am sure you are a great mom and doing the best for you and your kids. Just like me you are a survivor. Just keep thinking positive and take one step at a time. I will talk to you anytime you need someone to talk to. I know what you are going thru.