It is normal as far as my experience. Each of you will have a separate session. In that session the counselor will ask you about what you feel is good/bad about your marriage. Use that session as a time to be completely open and honest about your feeeling without your spouse being in the room. In the end it is supposed to help the counselor help you marriage better. Expect the counseling to be hard work. Both of you must be completely dedicated to saving your marriage. Good Luck Muscles!!

Thanks for that. I guess it's a good assumption she's dedicated because she set it up. The problem is we're supposed to move in about a month and it would seem we'd have to start over.

The counselor we saw had us meet separately in the beginning. He used the individual sessions to get background information on our upbringing, family relationships, past relationships, etc. He wanted to dig into who we are as individuals (and how we came to be that way) instead of just dealing with what is on the surface. If my husband would have continued to go, I think that counseling would have worked. Unfortunately, he only sees problems with me and not with himself.