hi, i have been a stay home mom for 18yrs of 2 girls now 20 and 17. about 2yrs ago, my husband of 20 yrs,and father to my girls wanted to try an open marriage to spice things up, telling me im the one he wants at the end of the day, and it would only be our bodies not our hearts, he convinced me that if we would explore this lifestyle i could back out anytime, with his support, well at the end of 2006, i didnt like the idea, and anything thus far happening, and told him, he had then changed his mind and said that, that was all he could think about and got so mean and unbearable to live with, i asked him to go to his sisters or a few weeks to clear our heads. once he was gone, he never came home and got very nasty about things, i.e. changing online passwords and opening his own checking account and so forth. we both own a home for 15 yrs, and i have dozens of emails from him stating he will fight for our marriage, and he loves me so much and we were going to grow old together, but when i wanted no more of the lifestyle, that is when he told me he "strung me along, and PRE-MEDITATED" the whole thing, to just get out... i had started to work at the local college that year to start to broaden my horizons a bit , to prepare for the empty nest syndrome, part time during rush and registration, but i have nothing! no job history , no savings, my girls think that dadddy does not want to hurt me, but he is more mean than ever, he just wants to get outta credit card debt and sell the house , putting me and my daughter in an apartment. i want the house, and im quite sure the alimony would pay for most of it, but i have no job history to refincance in my own name . he will gladly sign over the house and title to me, but the mortgage is what is holding me up, he is going to get a lawyer next week he said, and is nastier than ever! he works for the government and has a great job and benefits, and now the kids are almost grown i have nothing, for i believed him and his word, my family blames me and doesnt offer much support, but alot of resistence. as a result of all of this my anxiety and depression is doubled , leaving me crying and scared alot, keeping me from moving forward... i dont know what to do, if anyone has any words of advice , please let me know. thank you, signed desperate
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