So, my story is probably a little different. Married 23 years, together 25. On a Thursday night, after a very long day - I head home. Waiting to see my darling hubby - he always made me smile, laugh, etc. That night was different. I entered the home - and it was heavy - sad. My son was not home. I sat down to talk to my hubby and asked what was bothering him - he had been distant for about a week - but our son was getting ready to leave for collage - so, i know it was bugging him. I never expected to hear what i heard next. "I want a divorce. I'm not in love with you anymore." "We married young, and we've grown apart; we are different people." Devastated - isn't the word. We never fought, argued, and had a "good thing." - he wouldn't even talk to me. Shut me out completely. The next night, he packed his bags and left. So, the next Wednesday - i learn of her. I never, in a million years, expected that he moved in with his girlfriend. Never knew someone else was involved. On Thursday, he filed for Divorce. He said he didn't want to try and work it out - that he just wanted out. We didn't talk for several weeks without a screaming match - something we had not done since our early married years. He was so cold and distant. I had never seen him in this way. This is someone who sent me loving messages regularly; left me love letters, notes, you name it. I had it all. the perfect relationship - so, i thought. Then, we saw each other a few days ago. Still somewhat cold, but he said "how can there not be any feelings, we were married 23 years" - and then, he further states, I'm taking it one day at a time. I can't predict the future, I have no idea how i will feel in 6 months." of course, all of these statements confused me. But, i guess what i'm trying to figure out is - he told me he wanted a divorce, moved in with his girlfriend, and filed for divorce - all in a week. - so, it's over. How do i let go of someone i've loved for so long. Someone who is clearly not the person i knew. Different. Our divorce will be final in 10 days. No minor children - no financial wows - so, i gave in. Why fight something he has made clear he wanted and would get one way or another. This is killing me - but, i can't live in the past. That part of my life is over. I moved my son into college a few weeks ago - so, i am utterly alone. My friends were his friends - my hobbies were his hobbies. So, it's been awkward of course and i can see our friends distancing themselves from us. Of course, everyone is upset and can't believe "he" done this. This good hearted, compassionate, caring person. (which doesn't exist anymore) - I get it. I have sat so many nights waiting for the phone to ring to hear his voice say "can we meet and talk. I want to work this out." That call will never come and i need to start letting go. How do you do that? I feel like he was "ripped" away from me - as if he died.
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