Our 1 yr is this Saturday. We previously dated 15 years ago, reunited, married, all was great. About 3 months in, it was like he woke up a totally different person, not the person I fell in love with again and married. I was always to blame for everything that went worng, never did anything the way he expected it to be done, alienated from family and friends, closest friend 3 hours drive away and closest family 5 hours drive away. I felt that he hated my kids and was directly told that I would not get between him and his children, we always had the finances to visit his children but never to visit mine who live 7 hours drive away (his are 5 hours drive.) I had to follow him around and be beside him at all times, or I wasn't giving him enough attention. He would tell me its bedtime and if I didn't go to bed too, and sexual relations didn't ensue, it was a big horrible fight. I suffer migraines and he told me to suck it up, that I wasnt hurt. Men are superior and should be back in the day when women did everything for thier husbands, that women dont work, they do piddle jobs, and carple tunnle and bi-polar and depression are people seeking attention. He sodomized me 2 times in my sleep, when I woke and told him No, he didnt listen, just finished and expected me to be ok. I wasn't allowed to talk about "our" issues to anyone, getting online and on this site was not allowed, so I would sneak here. We had a horrible arguement, I took my chihuahua and went to Sonic to eat, had a flat and a couple that frequented where I work helped me, they paid for another tire (used but good) and 2.5 hours later I finally got home. That was not acceptable, he had left his cell at the job site and it was all a convenience that I had a flat.. Horrible fight for day 2. Then the next day was more of the previous 2 days, I had a family reunion with an aunt I dont recall meeting and says hasnt seen me in 31 years when I was 3. Went on reunion, he acted as though there were nothing wrong, no problems at all. I told my mother and family about it all. I then went back to our home, (we just closed on in Jan, this year) he started at me again, so I left and came back to moms. Overdrafted my account to get here. I am workign with my mother doing yard work and such, and he is now wanting to work it out. Everytime I had suggested counseling in the past he flat out refused. Now he is open to counseling and says he will do whatever it takes to get his wife back. I am scared that he is going to change for a short time and then revert back. he has called and informed me he is calling and looking for counseling, the 1 he did have a meeting with told him he shouldnt change, and he says he isnt taking his advice cause he wants me back. Our 1 year anniversary is this saturday, I am still 5 hours drive away from him, and don't know what to do. please help need all advice I can get.
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