first of all. lots of hugs. my hubby had his motorcycle accident 14 months ago. after getting frustrated with doctors nurses and therapists telling me all something different i went off. within a few hours one day while he was in icu i was told many many different things, finally i got them together and asked them why none of them knew what was really going on, why no one could tell me the same thing. when i finally heard something honest, a nurse said, ok,,,,we dont know, with his head injury and the rest of his injuries we just dont know what will happen, we have ideas, but we cant tell you anything 100%. and that made me feel better then the crap. i told them that was all i wanted honesty. and being told they just dont know was better then lieing and making up stuff. it has been a hard road and we still have a long way to go, but i wouldnt change any decision i have made. my husband is not the same person as before his accident, but neither am i. only time will tell, alone with love and prayers,,,,hugs

I am so sick of everything taking sooooo long!!I think it's gonna take awhile though. He's not taking too long, be patient. Some day it's gonna happen.

The healing, the relearning how to walk and other things that come so quickly as easily pre-brain injury because something quckly remembered and not as quickly done. I still long for the day and miraculous healing that will allow me a return to normalcy and physical/neurological independence back that I miss a million times over. Often, I miss the pre-brain injury me when at the most unexpected times especially through my tears anf frustration I am softly reminded that I still am me AND so is your husband still him, too. I can guarantee that you are NOT alone in your feelings nor s your husband either for that matter. Be kind and patient with yourself and encourage your husb do the same as it's a long journey and it's great you are reaching out for him and you for support and understanding! God bless you - prayers are with your husband's healing and your own hurting heart also!

I am having the same issue with my brother's dr's and nurses. The dr's were saying if he was going to recover he would have done something substantial. This was 24 hours after he was taken off a whole load of stedation. This was also said in front of my mum (who had a day pass from a different hospital due to cancer treatment) after we asked them not to say too much to her. This was just over a week ago, before he started breathing by himself, moving and opening his eyes. He's now out of ICU and in the ward. He may not imrpove but he may.I've come to the conclusion that they just don't know and have since not bothered speaking to the dr's, they have nothing positive to tell me and all they seem to do is bring us down. I'm just trying to be patient, as hard as that is.

Brain Injury is unique... if it were possible to have 2 identical folk with identical injuries the outcomes could be completely different. A neuro surgeon told us of 2 guys who had very similar injuries, similar ages etc and both had same rehab. One responded well and is now a plumber in Australia with his own business. The other is not much better than he was 18 months post injury.
The likelihood of getting your husband back as he was pre injury is unlikely, there are bound to be changes, some good, some not so. The diagnosis you are given for better or worse may not be. Only time will tell. My son was injured 1998 and we were given no hope. He has made a good recovery, all things consisdered. My Dad was given a good prognosis, we buried him within the month.
So sorry becJordan not to be able to give you the answer you would like but I do know a positive outlook will sustain you, take each day one day at a time and try to write. Journaling can help.Keep talking to him, speak of a future and take time for yourself, easier said than done, I know.Read all youcan, network so you know all that you can about hubbies condition, that way you can demand what is needed. Strong advocacy may very well be needed as most of us have found out. Surround yourself with positive people. Be strong. Good Luck

Hi Bec,Sorry to say but i have found out the hard way as we all do no doubt,doctors are like Baker's and butchers! there is a good and bad one at every corner!finding the right 1 is half this mission your unlucky husband and yourself have to now go thru.I hope you have nore luck than me I went through about 6 jp's and 2 hospitals before I was finally helped.I will say that there is not time limit in my eyes on the healing process,I wish him all the best ,he might never talk and walk again but I have seen some very bad injuries and some it takes 15 years to get back most functions ,but most show the most improvment in the first 2 to 5 years.
look for a book (Doing Up Buttons) by Christene Durahm ,she is from here in Austraila and is a surviver of a very bad injury.I was lucky enough to meet her while I was in rehab.Because of her and her alone I still hold hope for my smell returning.
Cheers,
Daz

some injuries just take more time to heal. Your husband's injuries are still very new and time is the ultimate test of how much recovery you will see. My husband was injured almost 4 years ago and although I know he will never be the same, he is so much better than he was at 4 months. The loneliness sometimes is consuming and I for one can understand what you are going through. Sometimes I close my eyes and remember special times and fear they will never return. Things do get better with time, whether it be acceptance of the situation or improvement of the patient. Take comfort in your children and be strong for them but don't forget to do something special for yourself. Too often mothers take care of themselves last so don't fall into that trap or it will drag you down further. I will keep you in my prayers.

Adn agrees ! Bec the best way ti help you hubby anf family is to look after yourself .good luck

They call it a medical practice for a reason. They are making assumption based on their knowledge of how its SUPPOSE to work. They don't actually KNOW and each case is different. What your husband can and will do is based largely on him. No two of us are the same. Some ppl take baby steps, some take giant leaps, some do both. That's why there are so many different right answers. Trust me when I tell you, your support of your husband is the best medicine he can get. The more you work with him, the better he will get. He needs you more than he does them.