After 7 months of dealing with all the problems of the head trauma, my husband will today tell you that I have not been there for him. That I have been there to cook, clean, shower, etc. But not THERE for him. For the first 5 months, he was so angry that no matter what anyone had to say it made him angry. He today will tell you that everyone in the house makes to much noise and that it is only when he is trying to do something like watch TV or talk on the phone. He does not want even his sister and her family to come over because they are to loud. It doesn't matter what you do it isn't good enough for him. He has never been this type of person and I don't understand how he can be so mean to everyone. This is just the smallest of things. He is totally consumed with himself. This is the person that has always given to everyone else, like remodeling his mother's home just because it needed it and he paid for it, like building his sister's home and loaning her the money to finish it because she ran out of money, not to mention giving my daughter the wedding of her dreams without her doing anything except picking out a dress, cake and a type of flower.( He planned the rest of it as a surprise complete with engraved wine for gifts ) He was always there for the everyone and now he doesn't like anyone. If you didn't know him you could walk up and talk with him about anything and you would thank that he was fine, but any member of our family, well he has rude, mean remarks to say to them. It has gotten better over time but not much. If I have anything to discuss with him I have to talk in a calm soft voice or he flies off the handle. Please don't thank him a bad person for he was and sometimes (rarely) is the most gentle person. Before the accident we had the near perfect relationship and now it seems that he hates me and anything to do with me. I know that I can not possibly realize just what he is going thru, not to mention the headaches, sore spots on his head, aching muscles and joints and lost of memory, taste and smell. Does everyone go thru this? He is taking no meds(refuses to) He often says things wrong using the wrong words and then saying well I know what I mean, thats what counts. Help, I have finally gotten to a point that explaining to him that he is being cranky isn't working, now I just say it straight and if he gets mad, I walk away. I have never babied him, I have always tried to stay calm but it isn't working now. Help if you can. It is much better but I am worn out.
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