Brain Injury Support Group
Traumatic brain injury occurs when a sudden trauma causes brain damage. TBI can result from a closed head injury or a penetrating head injury. Symptoms of a TBI can be mild, moderate, or severe, depending on the extent of the damage to the brain. Outcome can be anything from complete recovery to permanent disability or death. A coma can also affect a child's brain.
ever since i been hurt im not really a sociable person anymore...well ive always been a person to myself but when it came to girls...u kno aint nothin 2 be about yourslef there.....but now even talk with new people i just answer what is asked and bam alright thats it....i dont know if i just dont care or i dont know since my injury i seen how people are just talk and no one really cares....i am now wise beyond my years and get in conversations with people my age and there just like what the fuck...but older people actually understand and have an opinion about it....and the things i say at times, before would have never even came out these lips.......i dont see nothing wrong with it you know that life i use to live wasnt going to take me no where.....but uh couple feet under the ground....but bak 2 topic i dont know really.... because with my friends my 2 true friends i will ask n ask my family as well i dont know if its because i have a bon with them now and everyone else blows....but i work on it everyday....i dont need anyone but having connections is good...and parting myself from the world wont do me any good...i just have to work on what i talk....ill get completely off topic from one word to the other..no good....
Being social? What is that? Just kidding around. I am shy with around people i do not know well.
One of the main social issues I have is the way people react to me when they learn I have had brain surgery. I have to educate them.
People what to know what happened and what is wrong with me; then they size me up and put me in a category of something less than normal.
Just how it is; we all do similar sorting of people when we meet them.
I am much kinder and open minded in my assessments now.
I am one of the tbi people now.
I keep forgetting what the question you asked and have to re read the topic header.
My whole social structure change after my accident. That happens. People feel deserted. I highly suggest working on making new friends then. I miss some of the old friendships but I filled in those losses with new friendships.
I also understand , even though it still hurts, that too some of the former friends It is like I really did die. The person I was before the accident just does not totally exist anymore. Those people could not accept my accident and the new me so we parted ways. The best thing then is to move on and diffidently make new friends. It is great to have friends that understand what it means to be living with a tbi.
I have meet people becasue of my accident that volunteer their time to help people with disabilities. At first I felt like a charity case; but i worked on building a relationship with the person so we would have a friendship.
I have to have help to accomplish tasks so i have to be open to accepting help.
I hope this is helpful; I am getting lost and confused about what you asked Skar.
Keep communicating till I understand what you are asking. Thanks for you understanding and patients. I think my brain is having a so so day; kinda here, kinda somewhere else.
I have migraines about every two weeks and still have trouble remembering things like what I did with that darn list of things to get at the store or what Brendy and I talked about doing that day.Sometimes my brain just dosen`t want to function and those are the times when I would rather not try doing anything.I can drive but when I first started to drive after the wreck I would panic when I would see some one out of the corner of my eyes and almost have to pull over to calm down.But now I do ok unless I am tired so I don`t go on very long trips that I have to do most of the driving.
As you can see I am skipping around a lot so that tells you that I still have some problems to work on.I hope this has helped you to sort of understand some of the things you are going through and to know that some of these things just take time to work out and some of them may never work out but never give up trying to make the adjustments that you might have to in order to get to where you want to be.
One of the things that I had a real problem with was I liked to listen to music before my TBI but right after I couldn`t because it sounded all jumbled up,because all the different sounds were hard for me to seperate and it was so confusing,so for thre years I didn`t listen to any music but now I can so it does get better.
If you need to talk more just let me know I am usually on here at least once or twice a day.Best of luck,Monte.