MEN FIND IT HARD TO SHOW THEIR FEELINGS ALOT OF THE TIME.MY HUSBAND HAS THAT PROBLEM MY THERAPIST SAYS IT IS JUST THE WAY THAT MEN ARE.(A GUY THING) IT IS NOT THAT LONG THIS IT HAPPENED AND TIME WILL HEAL BUT ONE DAY OR STEP AT A TIME IS A GOOD THING TO DO.DEPENTANT IS OK FOR A LITTLE WHILE AFER ANY TRAMA BUT IF IT CONTINUES AFTHER A YEAR THAT IS A CONCERN AND HE SHOULD GET HELP AND I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU TO UNDERSTAND THINGS BETTER.

When my husband was injured the doctors told me his recovery was going to be a roller coaster ride. It's been nearly 4 years and one heck of a roller coaster. I hate to tell you, there are going to be times when it is really tough for you. There will be times you will get discouraged and want to leave him. There will be times you feel so helpless. There will be times when you cry yourself to sleep. Right now you are his security, thus the reason he needs to have you close. I wish I could be more positive but truth is, you have a rough road ahead. I wish you strength and wisdom. Hang in there and know others share the same feelings.

one more thing.... my daughter is an O.T. She was a real help in summing up the reality of loving someone who suffers a brain injury which causes personality changes. She said "you need to have a funeral for the person he once was and embrace the person he now is". It may sound a bit harsh at first but there is a lot of reality in those words. I wish you the best.

I was the same way your husband is. I didn'twant my boyfriend to leave me at all. I felt so unsercure with my self I felt lost with him. It was a stage I was going through. He had to make his self leave me for a hour a day starting out then he started leaving for longer periods of time. He had someone here with me to come me down. After awhile i wasn't dependent on him. there will be other stages that he wil go through My emotions was the same way too. What i was told to do when i felt any emotion talk about it right then so it is helping except i am still trying to control my anger.(whats on my mind comes out with me thinking about it).

jacq:
I agree with Heidie,you have to try to mourn for what you and your husband has lost,and at the same time be thankful for what both you and him have.Time can heal...it has taken me 13 years to feel as comfortable in my shoes as I am now!! If you love him enough,just try to stabd by him through the good and bad times. We all just need to be patient sometimes!!