Dear Friend,

You have a keeper, smiles. You guys will be just fine. He wants to be with you and has been there to take care of you; that says loads.

Relationships are hard and the tbi will make things harder; you guys are commitmented to each other and that will see you guys though these times.

From what I have seen on the boards those couples that did Not make it was becasue the injured partner was so selfish, hateful, uncaring, and would not find ways to re-make their life and find ways to enjoy life with their family.

My husband is so greatful I lived. Because of his care and help though my recovery my love has grown for him. He accepts me for how I am after the tbi; that means so much.

I have to rely on him more now but I also seek others for help to take some of the load off of him. And he has his limits as to what and how much he can do.

Hi! I have been with my fiance for over 3 and 1/2 years and when I woke up from my coma, I didn't remember him. I don't even remember meeting him. But he accordingly proposed to me and I said "yes". We didn't exhange rings though. I just think that he must love me.

It is a tricky thing to maintain a relationship.

That is one tough question! I think the answer depends on the relationship of the two people involved. As for myself and my marriage, I can honestly say I don't know if it will survive. We have been married 25 years and his injury was 3 1/2 years ago. We were on the verge of separation at the time of his accident. He is not even close to the person I fell in love with and our lives are not what they were before the accident. Many times I feel more like his mother or caregiver or worse yet, his husband. It is very difficult to keep the love alive. I look for things to love about him but they are often overshadowed by the negatives. I hold on to what "once was" hoping to regain the magic we once shared. Often times I feel so abandoned and alone in the relationship. I would give anything to turn back the clock to before his TBI. Life was so much easier and the future seemed so much brighter then.

years ago when i was told i had cancer plus many other problems i told my husband that if he wanted to leave i would understand,,,,talk about a slap in the face he said, and yep it was. and the same for him with his tbi now. it would be a slap in my face to think i am like that. we stick with each other for now 25 years, and changes come with life, it is what you do with the changes that matters. hugs

True Love is true love. You deal with the good and the bad. Any relationship has its ups and downs, that is without a doubt. He is doing what he wants and that is being with you.

After my TBI my 4 year relationship started heading bad. I also feel like I am pushing him away and trying to focus on myself more. But if he is willing to be there for you, you may want to try and work it out or just take some time apart to let yourself heal.

it seems mine is heading to the crapper. how should i respond when the wife said, "what a crappy life i have" after i told her that my doctor mentioned and recommended me to fill out SSI and/or SSDI papers. there is more to my relationship problem than that. it seems that she is also less supportive of me.

you will feel like this because your self esteem is down your still figuring out yourself but I bet he is so proud of you and how far you have come after a head injury a persons perception changes and if your partner is with you be happy he loves you and your important would you help someone you love be strong your great