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fiance left me after diagnosis of going blind (RP)

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I am still very depressed. My fiance (now ex fiance) left me 7 weeks ago after I got confirmed that I have retinitis pigmentosa. We were so in love, met 8 months ago and got engaged within two and a half months. We both said we were soul matched in everyway. She knew a couple who knew me and said that we would match. One week later she was with some of my other friends and said that I would match with her. She was shocked it was the same guy that two seperate people were describing. Next week we met and within a few months fell in love. Confirmation along the way that we were meant to be. I told her about the possibility of retinitis pigmentosa as doctors were monitoring me. She said that she loved me and would be with me no matter what. It would not stop her from having children with me. Every month I was checking her and she asured me that she was going to marry me. Four days after a true confirmation that I had the disease, she left me. I still can't get over her and deal with the thought of going blind. I am devistated. So happy and then extremely sad. The worst feeling ever in my life. Lost a mother to cancer but this is worst. I am 37 and she 28. She does not even want to talk to me now "I'm moving on and I need my space". F***, how can I move on? Her birthday is coming up in a week, do I acknowledge it? I don't know how I will ever trust and find love again.
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first of all I am saddened to hear about your situation. Now the hard part.I too was in your position at 1 time minus the eye problems they came later. Once trust is violaited it is hard to trust. The only difference is I was married at the time. given time & faith heals all wounds. As far as her birthday goes. don't welcome more pain. you are already hurting enough. 1 thing I strongly recomend is keep yourself busy. you said you want to move on? So now she don't exsist. look at it that way. I may sound cold but it will make dealing with your other problem easier
Jason
Your welcome. it's the least I could do. If you want to chat at any time don't hesitate. We are all family here. thats my perception anyway.
Jason
I honestly don't think you should acknowledge her birthday in any way. If she could be so cold as to leave you due to a diagnosis of disease, something you certainly can't control, then she doesn't deserve your respect, attention or affection in any way!
I am so sorry for what you have been through. You truly are a fighter, but know this: you have people fighting on your side. I will be here for you whenever you want to talk, or just need someone.
Life can be so harsh, and people so thoughtless and selfish. I believe you will find love again; you must believe that there are truly good people in this world, ones who don't care what impairments you have...they will view them as your strengths. Although you felt love for her, she wasn't a good woman if she would leave a good man for something beyond his control. You WILL find a good one, have faith and keep communicating, with us and potential mates!
Lots of love and hugs,
Mahadra
That is the worst thing I have heard in along time. I was diagnosed 04-2006 with angioid streaks. I found out who my friends really were. If she left you over this, she would have probably left over some other reason. She is being very selfish. Tomorrow she could be diagnosed with a disease and she could be disabled. Hope you have the courage to go on without her.
Patty
after i got hurt and it left me with vision probs i lost most of my friends i was mad upset sad till i realized the ones thay did stick around were true friends so hang in there
she was not worth the effort and for every one like that there are 10 more good ones
paula colestein