
Blindness & Visual Impairment Support Group
Blindness is the condition of lacking visual perception due to physiological or psychological factors. This is the group to discuss living with blindness, sharing experiences, and for those that may be facing the prospect of a life without sight. Find support and answers among people who know what you're going through.
blind people are you happy in your life?

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I want to know if keeping my premature baby and taking this high risk was fair to him, I feel guilty all the time, I feel I kept him because I loved him too much and could not let him be free with his twin sister in heaven.i lost my other twin baby and he was all I had.I decided to keep him eventhough my husband was trying to be realistic i was too emotional...
now he is suffering everyday and his future is so sad to think about. I beleive in quality of life, I want to know if he would have quality of life regardless of his eye problem...
what do I reply him? why I made him go through this? why doeas he have to suffer for the rest of his life?
please help me understand this situation.
now he is suffering everyday and his future is so sad to think about. I beleive in quality of life, I want to know if he would have quality of life regardless of his eye problem...
what do I reply him? why I made him go through this? why doeas he have to suffer for the rest of his life?
please help me understand this situation.
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I had a friend once whose baby was born blind; her doctor told her that either she could wrap Claire in cotton and bubble wrap and worry about her all her life, or she and her husband could teach her to be independent and live life. They chose to make her independent, and she grew into a fine happy young woman. The real problem was with people who saw them in the store or at church and tried to put her in bubble wrap -- or even worse, talked about her as if she was not there, about what a burden she would be all her life! I askd my friend why she did not punch those people in the nose, and she said you cannot punch everybody in the nose; you just have to be patient with them.
Prayer will help you do what is best for your baby; but blindness will not make him unhappy if his Mama is careful to allow him to be everything he is able to be. He will be just as happy as he makes up his mind to be.
I'm praying for you, that Jesus will help you through this difficult time, and that He will hold your son close and ease his pain and perhaps even heal his precious little eyes.
Just love your little guy as best you can, and he will thrive.
My prayers are with you.
Over time, the doctors did things to help regain some usable sight, before I could remember. Most people in this world, depend on their sight for everything, and because of that, run far away from people they don't understand
The truth of the matter, is being born blind, was the BEST thing that ever happened to me. It taught me, how to see people for who they really are on the inside.
It taught me, looks, age, race, disability don't matter when it comes to matters of the heart. It taught me how to be a good person, how to be a good husband that most women only see in their dreams, possibly a good father someday, and how to not let anyone get in the way of my dreams, no matter what they are.
I personally wish everyone could be blind for a day, just so they can understand what its like for us, to not take advantage of what we have in life. God gave me the greatest gift in the world when he took away my sight, and that was, a truely gifted insight that nobody else around me could ever have, and that is something NOBODY can ever take away from me.
I can't read print at all, not even large print, yet here I am typiing on a webpage, and taking online classes in college, with 60 credits 4 credits away from an Associates Degree in Computers.
Computers, or cooking, were my two passions in life, and I do both fairly well, better then most people. The point is, being blind doesn't stop him from doing anything in life. I can walk 10 miles away from home to work, and back, completely blindfolded if needs be. There is nothing a person without eyesight cannot do, only thing stopping you, is yourself. Never forget to tell your son that as he gets older.
My first VR counselor was completely blind, he made over $40,000 a year he told me, and had a Masters Degree in psychology.
I was born blind, then regained some of it later on in my life, now I am loosing it again due to Glaucoma, and frankly, it does not matter if I go completely blind, or not, because I can do anything I want to in this world rather I have eyesight or not.
The only thing totally blind people cannot do is drive, but they do have a Bioptic Driving program for the visually impaired.
I walk pretty much everywhere by myself. My mom raised me independant. I think its easier to deal with loss of eyesight when your a baby, then it is later on in a persons life. Later on in a persons life, they have to train themselves to remain independent, which takes years of training sometimes, but when your born like that, its kinda like that movie "daredevil" where that guy who is blind has super human powers. Of course, thats an exaggeration, but blind people actually DO get around that well. They can sense their world around them even better then people with 20/20, as they use their sense of hearing and sense of touch to know whats around them at all times. They are more alert to it then people with 20/20 are, so they are probably more independant then other people are, when you really think about it.
as I said, its harder to learn if a person is older and looes their sight, because once a peson reaches a certain age, they loose the sense of touch in their fingers to learn braille. I think its about 40 they start to loose their sense of touch.
The only troublesome part about being blind is, as I said, the driving issue, and other people discrimination against us. Most people just assume that just because a person is blind, they should have good hearing and a good sense of touch, but that isn't always true. If thats your only disability it is yeah, but alot of people have other disabilities on top of that, as I do, which makes living with a blindness, a longer process to learn, but not impossible, I don't believe anything is impossible if passionate enough about it.
lastly, be open to the possibility of sending him to a Blind school, so he can properly learn how to use his remaining senses to their best potential. That is very important, because kids in public schools make fun of blind and visually impaired people, putting them down, so its better for him to be raised around people more like him, so he is able to make friends with other peers. It may mean he'll have to travel to another city during the week, but trust me, he will thank you for it in the end.
I do recommend going to a blind school in the beginning to learn blind and visually impaired related skills, like independant living and mobility training,
but I agree about people at Blind schools having a "chip on their shoulders" like the world owed them something. Thats why I left there in the 10th grade.
unfortuntely, what tends to happen in mainstream schools, is teachers don't understand how to teach a kid who is blind or visually impaired, due to blackboard issues. They don't understand about note takers, CCTV's, braille, things of that nature, so I agree with what your saying from a social point of view, but from an educational point of view, a person can excel in school so much better if they attend a blind school starting out.