I shared in I think the "Bi vs Gay" topic here about my "straight married" friend that I have confided in her in an effort to talk about my "problem" of being married to a man and wanting woman romance and her response has been "Oh, yeah ... hubby and I have been there" as she then told me about how she has shared a bed with a woman for sexual purposes. It was clear it was all about sex for her. She acted as if she was "on the same page" with me and "no big deal". 'How clueless of her,' I thought. I've tried to explain to her that it is about more than sex but I think she cannot relate so she relates in the best way she can, which is about sex only. I think initially she thought I was trying to approach her about us possibly having sex but I didn't go there about it. She has said that she can "help me with my problem" and then I knew she was clueless about it. Oh, PLEASE! I have avoided any advance with her in this department. I think she has finally determined that I am just talking a bunch of bologna when I tell her I am gay or bi. Only because I don't think it's all about the sex and that I don't want to have sex with just "any" woman. I recently talked to straight man since I've been married and asked the question seriously (after he unsuccessfully tried to arrange a threesome experience for his own satisfaction watching two women) if he really thought he could be married to a bi woman - I kind of put him on the spot and tried to "de-glamourize" the benefits bisexuality he had in his mind and asked him what would he do if he learned his wife was bisexual? He actually stopped and gave me a few serious minutes on it and told me he would have a problem with it and wouldn't have married her if he found out she was bisexual.

Yeah, I haven't told alot of people that I'm bi ( I'm in my early stages =] ), but I do have that fear of people thinking that makes me slutty or something. To them, bi doesn't mean I'm attracted to either sex, it means I don't care who or when,lol. Right now, the people I decide to tell, I just say that I'm definitely not straight, but if a wonderful person walked into my life, I wouldn't care if they are a guy or a girl.