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Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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Silence is bliss?

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There's a woman who works with me,(my subordinate)that has repeatedly flirted and exspressed interest in me.I would like to reciprocate the same.I am very cautious because of the work related circumstances.This flirtation has been exibited by her toward me for the last 2yrs.I know she is sincere with only good intent.However, as much as I would like to,I am so afraid to cross the line.I love and need her as much as she has exspressed the same for me.If you read my profile,it might make a little more sense.I cannot take it anymore,I pretend when she's around that I do not care the same,when in fact I probably need her more then she'll ever know.Is anyone in the same position,or have they been?If so I badly need advice.At the same time I don't know if pursuing this desire would be more helpful or hurtful for the both of us.Please any advice!
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I have been in a similar scinario to this and i felt the same way as you did. Eventually i asked the person out and i was too late. She had recently started a relationship with another person. This hurt me alot, it felt as though my heart had been pulled out through my chest. If i were you i wouldnt just act as though you didnt care. You should maybe pull her aside for a conversation about how you feel and maybe sort some stuff out between you. My advice is whatever you decide, dont leave it too late because she wont hang around forever.
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I always fall for the most inconvenient people. I missed my timing in the midst of a mental breakdown (I was growing manic and got excited when a best friend confessed she might be bi). I was intrigued...then i thought about the possibility between us which led to an unhealthy obsession and a loss of a mutual friend ;(...And wasted years of meeting new people that would have been better for me and help me learn more things about myself, instead of focusing 7 fruitless years pining over a fantasy. She's married, and to be honest, it is a relief. It's taught me I've grown and got over her...Not so much because she's not available (which hasn't stopped me from getting infatuated with "married" people-ha), just that I know my limitations and that crossing a line may prove more damaging...It all depends on the circumstances...
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I agree with what all has said so far but of course you have thought of the employment consequences that can arise out of this. Which one of you would lose the most by leaving your jobs? I think you'll want to consider that, one of you leaving in the name of LOVE! Should the relationship somehow end at some point, and end badly, you could have legal repercussions to deal with, as well as she, for that matter.
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Hi,
Personally I think that its a tough situation. I am a hopeless romantic so I would suggest that one of you needs to move jobs because working together complicates things, and really we work to live not the reverse. The possibility of being with someone that might be your soulmate is WAY more important than any job ever could be. But thats me. I don't know where you live or what the employment legislation is like, but I would suggest that dating her while you manage her is not the best plan. Nonetheless I would let her know how you feel and that you can't pursue a romantic relationship with her as long as you manage her. I know that its much more grey than you had described, and than my answer, and that its much easier to see situations as black and white from the outside so I hope my answer doesn't sound too simplistic. Good luck whatever you choose to do. :)
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