My partner and I have been together for almost a year now. We're renting our own place and are looking into getting a mortgage and buying our own place. Last night his Dad called me to thank me for taking care of his son and for making him happy. Everything was wonderful. Then I sat down at our computer and I noticed that MSN was signed in with a strange account so I went to the inbox to see what the email address was (I thought it may have been my brother's from when he stayed) instead I found an inbox with male advertisements. Not thinking much of it I clicked on one that had a link to a profile. I found that my partner has created a personal ad searching for other males. Initailly I was taken aback that he was interested in men but it was the fact that he had an ad saying 'no relationships, no lunch, just sex'. I felt betrayed and I got upset and confronted him. He explained that he realised that he was never going to have the opportunity to be physical with anyone else besides me and that he just wanted to know that he was still desired by other men. I don't mind my partner having a healthy fantasy life but the fact that he kept it from me and that he (whilst I know he'd never cheat on me) felt the need to advertise himself like that is confusing me and my emotions have gone haywire. I don't how I feel and I don't know what to do. Is it my trust that is hurt or simply my pride? And I trust my partner but I have bisexual friends and they themselves (i'm not generalising all bisexuals) aren't the most faithful of people - they view sex as an activity seperate from intimacy and I worry that maybe my partner does too. It's irrational and paranoid but I'm lost and have no idea how to take any of this. I guess I just want someone to clear things up and tell me the common sensical and obvious things I myself would say if I wasn't so caught up in it all. Now I sound self-involved. I just need some advice is all. Please.
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