
Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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Have you ever felt a bit paranoid about your sexuality? Do you ever wonder if people can just tell that you're bi? Or that people say or do things to see how you will react in order to find out which team you play for? Do you ever find yourself trying to compensate for your sexuality, like trying to be as "normal" as possible?
I find myself doing all of these things. I admit I'm a little paranoid. There's a lady that I work with whose rather playful with me. Just out of fun we talk "smack" to each other. So the other day I jokingly told her that we have an abusive relationship and she said "No, it's not abusive, just physical." We're not actually physical we just talk junk to each other so my mind went into left field on this. I started to wonder if she meant something else by that. Was she trying to suggest something? If so, why and what? Maybe she said it just to see how I would react. Maybe she thinks I'm gay and is trying to draw me out. My mind just gets to spinning. She probably meant nothing by it but sometimes I wonder if being bisexual is causing me to have this "double" mind; comments seem to have hidden meanings, I suspect people to have hidden agendas. Or maybe it's just a side effect of having to hide who I really am that I think other people are hiding a lot too. I don't know, what do you think?
I find myself doing all of these things. I admit I'm a little paranoid. There's a lady that I work with whose rather playful with me. Just out of fun we talk "smack" to each other. So the other day I jokingly told her that we have an abusive relationship and she said "No, it's not abusive, just physical." We're not actually physical we just talk junk to each other so my mind went into left field on this. I started to wonder if she meant something else by that. Was she trying to suggest something? If so, why and what? Maybe she said it just to see how I would react. Maybe she thinks I'm gay and is trying to draw me out. My mind just gets to spinning. She probably meant nothing by it but sometimes I wonder if being bisexual is causing me to have this "double" mind; comments seem to have hidden meanings, I suspect people to have hidden agendas. Or maybe it's just a side effect of having to hide who I really am that I think other people are hiding a lot too. I don't know, what do you think?

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sounds to me like ya'll are flirting with each other, good ole fun! I often wonder the same thing you are wondering about. Do I read more into other people than there really is? Or worse, am I projecting my own sense of gay behavior onto them? Becuase I struggle with this also from time to time, I would love to hear a "straight person's" point of view!

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Wow. Deja vu...I work with my so called object of frustration too but luckily it's only every few days (the staff chooses their hours depending if their full or part time). I get relief whenever I'm transferred to another department on the days she's working. This happens to her sometimes too. Less distraction and keeps a distance that I think we both need, at least I think so. Also, talking smack is also one of her MO as well. I always feel like she's teasing me. Then I try to compare this with how she interacts with others, and I see this is how she only knows how to deal with our encounters. It gets awkward. I posted something called PDA-Public Displays of Awkwardness-and then of course,once I feel this-I get paranoid. :)...
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