Yeah, I have but not in the sense that I might be more straight or gay but rather seeing that my sexuality is fluid rather than fixed. The terms "straight", "gay", "lesbian" and "bisexual" have this sense of being fixed, never changing. But I've noticed that some times I'm only interested in men, sometimes I'm only interested in women, other times I could care less whether the person is male, female or transgender and then there are times where I'm not interested in anyone. I go through these periods of heterosexuality, bisexual, homosexuality and asexuality. So although I say I'm bi I'm beginning to feel that my sexuality is more fluid than the term "bisexual" can express.

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The girl that I have a crush on feels exactly that way, when we were at uni she was equally interested in men and women, but she is certainly leaning heavily towards women recently. She is currently re-evaluating her sexuality and I think she is finding it tough. She thought as Mercury does that her sexuality was fluid, but is feeling a little more fixed. Her view was that it was all about the person and not their gender, but now she is kinda all about the girls at least sexually. I guess bi is a label, as long as you are comfortable with you thats what matters. Good luck with defining yourself, but try not to worry about label's, they aren't always helpful.

Seems like we're lacking a bi guy's point of view here, so let me step in. (Now, if you thought to yourself, We don't need any guys' opinions, then you might actually be a full-fledged, car-repairing, flannel-wearing lesbian. Joke.)

I completely understand what Mercury said b/c I feel the same way. Sometimes I'm more attracted to guys, sometimes more to gals. While I find that I can't completely undo society's strictures of what is right, wrong, odd, etc. when thinking about my own sexuality, I've quit trying to strictly define myself b/c I'm done with the notion that I have to define and explain myself, even to me.

I'm a little worked up on this topic b/c of a post in Health Sex in which a person said that "most of the psychiatric community does not believe in the existence of bisexuality," or something close to that. Who cares what they think! They've made egregious mistakes in the past (e.g., that homosexuality is a disorder/disease).

In my own experience, I've found it curious that there are lots of gay men who refuse to accept the possibility of bisexuality. For them, there is only gay, or straight. I kind of wonder if this is some misplaced anger for those whom they think are "unwilling" to come fully out of the close (i.e., be bi).

Sorry to rant on about this. What I meant to say is, Do what makes you happy and don't worry about definitions and explanations.