Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
Hello all.
Im a 39 year old male, i always thought my attraction to both men and women was because of the abuse i suffered for many years as a child. Since i have been in counselling i have realised that it is who i am, i still find it hard to admit to myself that im bisexual. I know i am, but have only told two people and i am trying to find the courage to admit this to my wife. She is having to put up with so many problems in relation to my abuse, and how can i drop this on her.
Scared and looking for answers
UNDERTOW.
Im a 39 year old male, i always thought my attraction to both men and women was because of the abuse i suffered for many years as a child. Since i have been in counselling i have realised that it is who i am, i still find it hard to admit to myself that im bisexual. I know i am, but have only told two people and i am trying to find the courage to admit this to my wife. She is having to put up with so many problems in relation to my abuse, and how can i drop this on her.
Scared and looking for answers
UNDERTOW.
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So when I grew into an adult I wasn't able to come to grips with the fact I was bisexual until my early 20s. I didn't want the bullies to be "right". (Stupid, but true).
I hope that helps.
I think it's great that you realized that your attraction to both sexes is who you are and not a result of abuse. So many people experience abuse, but sexual orientation is a separate thing from that.
It might actually be a relief to your wife to learn that some of your behavior is connected with your sexual orientation and has nothing to do with any shortcomings in her.
I recently told my boyfriend about my attraction to women, and I made sure he knew that my attraction to women is just who I am and has nothing to do with him. I think it will be important for your wife to know this, too.
It was a HUGE relief for me to talk to my boyfriend and I bet you'll also feel relieved when you talk with your wife.
Congratulations on being true to yourself and also for being a caring, sensitive person, who doesn't want to hurt your wife.
LOL, Ave
PS I think most people, if they were really open and honest with their energy, would be bisexual anyway! Kinsey found in his studies that few people are 100% straight or gay, but somewhere in between.