
Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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I wish I felt comfortable in high heels. I wish that wearing an elegant spaghetti strapped dress made me feel like a lady. I wish that lacy lingerie filled me with feelings of sexiness. I wish that I could pull off that look that is so often portrayed by models in magazines like Harper's Bazzar or Cosmo. You know the look, "Look at me, I'm a woman." But more often than not I feel like I'm faking it. My husband constantly tells me that I'm all woman to him but sometimes I feel like I'm doing some kind of impersonation. I have to remind myself to act "feminine" or otherwise I might put him off. What's strange though is exhibiting too much masculinity makes me feel uncomfortable and distant from who I am within. I feel out of place, not being able to comfortably fit into either gender role. Sometimes I wish that humans were created with both sex organs that way one's gender would be more so determined by one's mood rather than by one's sex. Then again what would be the need for gender roles if we have both sex organs. I mean when you look at it isn't that what gender roles rest upon; what's between your legs? If we had both we would have to find something else to divide ourselves with.
I've been struggling lately with my gender identity in light of being bisexual. The only solution that I feel most comfortable with is finding a balanced blend of both genders. I guess that would put me more along the lines of being psychologically androgynous but how do you even express such a thing? How would someone go about trying to make their outer appearance match up with their internal world that's both masculine and feminine or neither? Is it possible to be emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually androgynous? And if so is there a name for such people?
Mercury
I've been struggling lately with my gender identity in light of being bisexual. The only solution that I feel most comfortable with is finding a balanced blend of both genders. I guess that would put me more along the lines of being psychologically androgynous but how do you even express such a thing? How would someone go about trying to make their outer appearance match up with their internal world that's both masculine and feminine or neither? Is it possible to be emotionally, spiritually, and intellectually androgynous? And if so is there a name for such people?
Mercury
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in thailand they believe in the blurring of genders which is why transgender "ladyboys" are so popular.
i'd like to think that people with clear bi-sexual orientations are the leading edge of a new sexualr evolution, whereby we judge people not first by gender but first by level of attraction.
i don't buy the whole "bisexuals are just greedy s.o.b.s who won't stick to one gender so they can have sex with everyone."
i think maybe it's time to stop worrying about which gender we are, which gender we should think like, feel like, dress like.
i'm leaving my wife because i realized that i couldn't keep denying my attractions and desires.
hiding them or denying them led to infidelity and pain.
i think we make ourselves miserable playing this game of "what does society expect of me?"
the question should be, "what do i expect of myself?"
stop stressing about where you fir into some one's worl view?
are you comfortable with yourself?
are you happy with how you think? dress? cross your legs?
throw like a girl but belch like a guy?
dress like a guy but pole dance like a girl?
what does any of it matter if you are honest about who you are and are happy expressing yourself.
i rencetly "came out" to my 70-year-old parents as part of explaining why my marriage was ending.
having gone through my younger coming out as gay 30 years ago, my parents laughed and told me, "so? what's the big deal?"
it's time to stop labeling ourselves for the convinience of others.
this is who i am.
who are you?
what to go have a drink and talk?