Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
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My name's CC. I came out in high school, and was very happy with myself and my decision to pursue relationships with both sexes. When I became pregnant with my first set of children, I was told by my mother, whom I lived with at the time, that the lifestyle I'd "chosen" was an inappropriate and unstable environment for children to be raised around. She told me the children needed a father figure, and would not understand seeing me with a girl. Being young, naive, and brainwashed, I listened and "took myself" out of that lifestyle. I quote these things because as anyone in this community knows you don't "choose" this, really, and you either are, aren't, or are curious. We'll let me tell you, I knew. But seeing as how she played on my conscience, and knew I felt bad anyhow being a single mother, I let it go, sort of.
I'd always pass by women, cling to whiffs of their perfume and looking just a little too long. While working, it was hard not to approach women in the flirtatious manner I'd been known for, or get close without being aroused by the heat of their bodies near me. I'd even gotten offers to have relationships, casual and serious, though her words came back into play.
I've since "divorced" my mom, gotten married(to a man), had two more kids, and re-exited the closet. Not saying I'd ever bring my sexuality up as the topic of the day with them, but if anything ever did happen between a woman and I, I'd have no idea where to start.
My question is: How does one explain this sexuality to kids or do you? Those that have kids, has it become an issue and how did you explain it or did you?
My name's CC. I came out in high school, and was very happy with myself and my decision to pursue relationships with both sexes. When I became pregnant with my first set of children, I was told by my mother, whom I lived with at the time, that the lifestyle I'd "chosen" was an inappropriate and unstable environment for children to be raised around. She told me the children needed a father figure, and would not understand seeing me with a girl. Being young, naive, and brainwashed, I listened and "took myself" out of that lifestyle. I quote these things because as anyone in this community knows you don't "choose" this, really, and you either are, aren't, or are curious. We'll let me tell you, I knew. But seeing as how she played on my conscience, and knew I felt bad anyhow being a single mother, I let it go, sort of.
I'd always pass by women, cling to whiffs of their perfume and looking just a little too long. While working, it was hard not to approach women in the flirtatious manner I'd been known for, or get close without being aroused by the heat of their bodies near me. I'd even gotten offers to have relationships, casual and serious, though her words came back into play.
I've since "divorced" my mom, gotten married(to a man), had two more kids, and re-exited the closet. Not saying I'd ever bring my sexuality up as the topic of the day with them, but if anything ever did happen between a woman and I, I'd have no idea where to start.
My question is: How does one explain this sexuality to kids or do you? Those that have kids, has it become an issue and how did you explain it or did you?
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Well love, sounds like your life is pretty amazing minus this one little issue. Not even an issue really, moreso a mapless road. I dont have any children of my own but I do know how my exboyfriends mother came out to him and his sister. She set them both down, and simply introduced them to the idea. Told them straight up without beating around the bush. The outcome simply depends on how your children are. For example, my ex took it just fine. He still lives with his Mom and her girlfriend and has no problem with it. While theres the other outcome. The example for that is his older sister. She is a devote christian and although she still loved her mother, she quickly moved in with her father and stepmom an hour away. So once again theres two outcomes as I'm sure you knew of beforehand, but in my opinion, as being a teen myself, i believe the best way for you to come out to your children if you so choose so, is to simply sit them down and tell them. Its easier and helps your kids know that you see them as adults and respect their opinion. I dont know if this will help, but i do hope it does love.
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well in my family if my mom was anything shes a bitch sorry if that offens anyone but i never new alot of stuff and when i met my boyfriend its like him and his mom have no boundries about talkign about sex, im going to have boundries with my child but when my child reaches the age of starting to talk about sex thats what im going to do is tell my child stright up because in the future it messes up everything if you keep it a secert. i dont want to be anything like my mother shes evil and greedy when my boyfriend pays her room and board she still wants more of his money its messed up so yeah
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