Hi, I love this question you posted!
I don't know how to flirt with women, but I have noticed that when women flirted with me a few times in the past, they did the same thing, which was to gently lift up my hand to admire a ring I was wearing. It happened three times, which made me think it was almost some sort of signal I wasn't aware of, but in each case it was very tender and nice and made me feel connected with them.
Ave

Hi, I love this question you posted!
I don't know how to flirt with women, but I have noticed that when women flirted with me a few times in the past, they did the same thing, which was to gently lift up my hand to admire a ring I was wearing. It happened three times, which made me think it was almost some sort of signal I wasn't aware of, but in each case it was very tender and nice and made me feel connected with them.
Ave

Thanks! I'm gonna give that a go! The thing is, I'm usually so open with men... I'm scared to be that open and upfront with women!

From my experience if another woman likes you she'll move closer to you, she may be a bit more "touchy feely" and will hold your gaze and look you in the eye much longer than usual.
How to flirt back? Well, I don't know how to do that. I often all twisted up in knots on the inside when I'm around a woman I like. It's often to the point that I can't even look at her for fear that she might see that I'm attracted to her. I don't have this problem with men though. Too bad there aren't more available social cues on how women can go about approaching women.

I think you'll be interested in these books:

The Art of Meeting Women: A Guide for Gay Women
Rhona Sacks

AND

The Straight Girl's Guide to Sleeping with Chicks.
By Jen Sincero

I read the second book, which I LOVED, and I think there might be some stuff in there about flirting. I haven't read the first book.

It seems that we've only scratched the surface about this topic, the issue of how do we know another person of the same sex is into you. I constantly quiz myself and analyze every interaction and word exchanged. I have a litany of favorite moments that make me wonder, Could she?....then I emember I CAN"T because SHE'S NOT AVAILABLE emotionally!!!...

My favorite moments:
1. Tap of against my shoe after work
2. The gripping of my neck to simluate a pose in a picture.
3. Bringing me in by my shoulder for a picture taking.
4. Brushing my hair away from my face to see if I'm wearing my eyeglasses.
5. The way she says hello to me in a strained way when she says my name.
6. The way she teases me (I can't explain)
7. Offering to lend me a book to read
8. Leaning on a chair that I'm sitting in.
9. The way we avoid each other.
10. the way we "look" and then look away from each other....

Are these any signs that you've come across?...Keep in mind this is from someone I can never be with...I least I'm mature enough to know that. If you're lucky to meet someone who is emotionally available to you, I hope you have a wonderful experience discovering the signs....Happy Flirting :)

i'm not sure myself but i would like to flirt with you!

Well, I picked up one of my female friends was flirting with me when I didn't know she was bi, I was drunk, I said 'you fancy me don't you?'. It was possibly the stupidest thing I could have said. It fundamentally changed our friendship. Anyway, how did she do it?

Her gaze lingered on me longer than other people. She smiled at me more and touched my hand when she was making a point. She did the shy look away thing sometimes. She noticed what I was wearing. She took the time to really get to know me and engaged with me particularly on things we had in common. When we went shopping for a ball we were going to she was clear about what would look good on me and why, and she was right! She was very intuitive about how I was feeling and made it clear that she cared by how tactile she was sometimes and how she backed off at others. I guess it was mostly how she looked at me and how she was around me compared with everyone else.

Now I am off the market I do notice when women are interested in me or appreciate how I look . I have to say I have been surprised by it actually. I have been able to tell the difference between a woman looking at me to compare me to herself and think - I like what she is wearing it would look good/bad/indifferent on me and I like how she looks. I might be wrong, but a little flirting can clarify the situation.

I know this is a silly example but I feel I should give it anyway. I bought my first push up bra last week (OMG was it one of the best purchases ever), and wore it with this top that I bought before realising I needed a plunge bra to go with it. So I was feeling particularly sexy. I went to tesco's (yeah I know, just the place to go). Anyway I went to the loo and this person was behind me, I looked behind me to see if the person there was a woman and then turned back and as I turned around to hold the door open for her too she was checking me out. Always flattering right? Anyway I wasn't sure whether she was checking me out, or what I was wearing so we made small talk, as you do, a little bit flirty, you know lots of eye contact and gestures that bring attention to your finer points and then I went to the loo. When I came out she was still there drying her hands, I washed mine and found that the dryer next to hers (the only other one) wasn't working. Again said 'typical' and rolled my eyes at her. She giggled and smiled back at me. I decided to do the lady like thing and dry my hands on my jeans I know its a little wrong but I always think its kinda funny to have hand marks on my arse. I twisted away from her as I planted both hands firmly on my bum, looking at her over my shoulder. I suspected from the start but then I knew. It was a little light-hearted flirting with a girl I will never see again, but it was fun. So I guess that is how I do it.

just be yourself... do what feels comfortable and right to you... that is all you can do. when my girlfriend flirts with me she usually get really close to me and gives me complements... she also plays with my fingers or "accidentily rubs her hand on my leg or my shoulder.

I'm the same way men are easy to flirt with but I'm scared to try to flirt with a woman. She might slap me or something.

Good question, I can't seem to flirt with either men or women! I think I've got the stank of looser, or jerk off on me. Wish I knew how people seem to be so lucky and just "score." Maybe I need to get out more - damned computers

ooo i love this question lol u know women are flirting when they seem to move closer when u are talking and use more eye contact and just with body movements.
to flirt with women well...i usually use the basic approach by talking to them asking there name n stuff and telling them there beautiful (im a charmer lol) although i also tend to be more at ease and my body language is more touchy feely and i tend to then just try it lol its basically same as men just make sure u find the gay or bi ones lol

well i don't know if this will work with anyone else but something i use sometimes, when i feel i really like the person is to take their hand and do the whole "when your gonna die and how long your gonna life for" thing with the lines on their hands. I totally b.s. it but the way you touch and the way you look at them as your explaiing their"life story" can be a hint. it worked for me haha i personally think it's all about the connection you make with the person and basically show your true self. Sounds so cliche but yea..

jo3y, that idea is amazing! I'm totally going to use that now! I'm actually kind of upset that I didn't think of it first!

I don't know how I flirt, really. I never notice when I do, and the other person has to be really obvious for me to pick up on it. My friend told me I'm really easy to flirt with, though, :]

Well, according to some of my friends, I'm naturally a flirtatious person. (I don't think so, but hey, it's their opinion.)

So, if I happen to find someone that catches my interest, I'll create a casual conversation with them. I usually stand pretty close to them, and if there's something to lean against, I'll use it. Eye contact is probably the best thing. There are some people that just send the message that they're okay with a little "extra attention" and if I happen to be chatting with them, I'll let my eyes meander down their frame, then back up again. A coy smile or two never hurts either.

Now, if it's a friend I'm flirting with, there's a big difference. Since I know them, I'll poke fun at some of the things they do or say, and I'm a lot more physical. Also, friends have a natural chemistry that you can sort of use to your advantage.

As far as approaching women goes, try to get a read for what they seem interested in (i.e., the shy type, confidence, etc.)

Now, pretty much reverse what I've told you about how I flirt, and possibly add a bit more physical actions, and you'll have a better way of knowing when you're being flirted with.

Don't know if this helps, but I hope it can provide some info at least. Best of luck to you in the future. =)