Personally it's not a sex thing for me but in my journey to understanding my sexuality I've had to ask myself some questions like what's the difference between being bisexual and simply being someone who is capable of enjoying sex with either a man or a woman? If I lived in a society where it was acceptable to love and marry either a man or a woman, could I see myself sharing my life with a woman in the same way that I'm sharing my life with my husband? Why do I not consider myself straight? And why do I not consider myself gay? In answering those questions I came to the conclusion that for me being bisexual suggests more than being able to have sex with either men or woman but also being able to be emotionally intimate with either sex and capable of being committed to either sex.
I don't consider myself straight because I feel that I can have meaningful intimate relationships with either a man or a woman. Plus to be straight you almost have to have a visceral reaction of disgust to the thought of being with someone of the same sex which I don't and I can't seem to understand why I should. I don't consider myself gay for the same reasons for why I don't consider myself straight.
I can't say that a person's sex plays a huge role in attraction. As cliche as it sounds I really do fall for the person. I like a person for who they are. I don't think about their sex or what's between their legs. It's just something in my heart and spirit that gets drawn to a person and at that point I see nothing but beauty in them.
To me bisexuality is more than a behavior or physical/sexual act. It's a natural disposition of being comfortable with having intimate relationships with either men or women based on more than sex. This is just my opinion but it's why I feel that the term "bisexual" more rightly describes my romantic orientation rather than straight or gay.

I'm bi curious, to quote you "i'm comfortable
with emotional and physical connections with both genders, and that what attracted me to someone was personality first, physical characteristics second.
it was who they were, regardless of gender, that attracted me."
Same for me although i'm emotionally attracted to men and phisically to girls. I've sorta known I was bi for a while but I just figured it out recently. I don't think about it as a "sex thing" I never have.

I consider myself bi-sexual because I have had sex with both women and men.
I enjoy sex with both.
An attractive girl will always get my attention,as will an attractive man.
With a women,I want to make love to her,explore her whole body and engage in a lot of foreplay.With a man,for me,the attraction is his personality.If he is someone that I feel I want to know better,his looks are not the most important thing.I am attracted to his penis.
I hope this does not make me sound like a shallow person.

I am a visual person usually but in terms of attraction and matters of the heart I have found that my attraction is more emotional and more deep in connection when it comes to the same sex. With men it has been superficial attraction and I have found in past "relationships" I've been that although I find the guy physcially attractive I cannot or have yet to find a man who I connect with on a deeper level. However, there have been times where I met a man who was intellectually stimulating I was turned on by it. Plus, he didn't look too bad either. But, unlike a woman, he didn't bother to empathize with me or see things through my perspective so it kind of took away from trying a relationship with him...

Oh, and I plan to wait for the right person yet before I have sex. Yes, I know I'm pushing that 40 year old virgin soon but if I'm gonna give my most intimate part of myself, I want to be sure I'm with the right person and whom I love. It isn't one night stands for me. I get hurt too easily and so much emotions get involved it would trigger things I cannot deal with.

So, in short-more emotional vs. physical for me when it comes to bisexuality.

wow.
beautiful answers.

My first attractions to other females were when I was younger, and it was usually 'sexual', or rather I thought they were physically attractive, and that's what drove the whole feeling.

But after a while it kind of changed.

When I'm attracted to a female, it's usually all the elements combined: physical, emotional, intellectual, ect. Just like my 'crushes' on males.

I have had strong emotional and physical feelings for a few females over the past 3 years... but I've made a personal choice not to have a relationship with a female. I am only open to males involving relationships of a physical nature and that sort of thing.

As far as strictly physical attraction, I find females far more attractive than males.

But as far as what is involved in making a relationship (in my opinion), it would have to be with a male.

I have not figured myself out 100% yet. It is still confusing at times, and a struggle. But inside, I feel as if I am handling it well, and I do know what I want.

I am bisexual because its the label for people that aren't straight or gay. Before the little crush that I have now I defined myself as hetro because my fiance is a man and I am marrying him. I realise now that in fact my sexuality isn't defined by my partner but by my physical and emotional responses to other people. Sexually I find attraction to women simpler, I found sex with a woman a more relaxed, comfortable, experience than I ever have with a man. I am generally attracted to more men than women, but that is probably because I haven't been willing to accept being bi until recently.

I guess I am bi because it is the connection that I make with someone that defines how I feel about them. In that there is obviously some physical attraction, but overwhelmingly its an emotional connection with them. I have had really deep emotional connections with two guys and one girl. The fact that they haven't just been with men or women really does make me bi...

Wow - Well, here goes. I was sexually abused by my brother and his friend when I was 10 - 12 or 13 years old. No doubt the abuse was awful and not my fault (has taken a long time to get past the guilt and shame) it did have an impact on my sexuality. I do enjoy both anal sex (bottom) and oral sex with a man. But I am totally emotionally attracted to females. Is this trauma repetition?? I don't know - but I do know - and am coming to terms with the fact I like it. That does in no way condone the abuse - but did fuck with my mind for a long time.

Hi

I realy like this line from MercuryRa.

Personally it's not a sex thing for me but in my journey to understanding my sexuality I've had to ask myself some questions like what's the difference between being bisexual and simply being someone who is capable of enjoying sex with either a man or a woman?

Allthough I have not had sex with a man "yet" I have Considered it often and more so lately. I definitely find some guys attractive both in a personal and physical way. So I do feel it may come down to a sexual encounter somewhere in the future. So thats my 2 cents.

Peace along the way

My situation sort of like "Elz's" is. Im a young male who has considered himself bisexual for a couple of years. The only hook ups with guys that I've had were always when I was extremely drunk, but I never have denied my attraction to men regardless of my state of mind. I have tried explaining to my friend that the reason I am attracted to guys is because it isn't the norm. However, I cannot see myself having a relationship or sex with a man. Foreplay; maybe. But not sex. I now would say that I'm straight, because my definition of bisexual is being able to give 100% to both sexes, which is something I cannot do. Although I still think I would hook up with a guy. I long for a wife and children, but who says I can't have a little fun until I find that certain woman?

Does anybody else feel the same way? Or, if not, I would like to hear any opinions.

I couldn't just tell you one thing right off the bat. You would have to KNOW me, and read me before anyone could understand me feelings about sexuality.
When it comes down to it, i'm a deep person. Every single emotion people betray I'll catch. I'm a "people watcher" you could say. To me, life is like a secret box. I want to examin it from the outside. From every angle, and then take it apart, peice by peice and examin every single peice from every angle. And at the end, I want to see what's on the inside. And in turn examin that.
And after all the examining, I'll ask questions about it. Why is it this way? Why does it do this? Why is it. . .etc.

So, when it comes down to my own personal sexuality i don't look at any ONE thing first, but the thing as a whole.

haha, that probably didn't make sence to a lot of you. . .but just think on it i guess
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Sexuality is one of those gray areas that tend to baffle us because there's no real concrete way to define what makes a person straight, gay or bi. Everyone has their own definition that they feel comfortable with which may clash with someone elses understanding of the same thing. But in regards to myself, I see myself as sexually fluid but if talking to others, I say bisexual because it's more easily understood and well known, despite the negative connotations. I consider myself as such because I'm attracted to and desire to have more than sex with a man or woman. That ease at which I feel within myself with the thought of establishing an emotional, spiritual as well as physical bond with a woman or a man, I feel is what makes me bisexual. For me I have to have all those elements. If I longed to have an emotional and physical bond with a man but only wanted to have something physical with a woman now and then, I wouldn't consider myself bisexual, I would consider myself straight but sexually open. For me, I have to be open to giving my all to either a man or woman not just bits and pieces. I had to ask myself, if I was living in a society where it was seen as normal to be with the same sex as well as the opposite sex, would I be comfortable dedicating myself to a woman as I do a man? I came to the conclusion that yes, I would feel just as comfortable with a woman as with a man and therefore concluded that I was bisexual. Or maybe a better word would be "biamorous" because it's not just sex with me, it's more, much more than that. But for some people it is only about the sex. It's sad that we reduce ourselves to mere body parts and thrills.

the definition of bisexual that sexually you're attracted to both sexes. You can have no desire, emotionally, to be with the same sex, but if you desire it sexually then-viola- you're bi.

for many of us, there's an emotional part to.. but that comes along with being human, not what our sexual orientation is.

For me, honestly, it started with just the sex. I had only ever been with my husband and I had sexual fantasies about women. Once I got my first girlfriend, I realized it was way more than that.. but that's on a human level, not a gender one.

does anal sex make you bi or gay? absolutely not.. it's just an erogenous zone like any other. Wanting anal sex with another man? That makes you bi/gay.

As far as making out while drunk.. my sister had done this too many times to count yet insists she isn't bi. I don't think straight people have drunken homosexual experiences just by accident. I think these are people who are bi or bicurious, but are unwilling to admit it, or need the aid of alcohol to lower their inhibitions.. especially if one has strong beliefs against homosexuality.

Hmmm... sure makes you stop and contemplate, doesn't it?

With me, as a "bisexual" female... it has more to do with sex than an emotional attachment. HOWEVER... I don't much care for down and dirty sex with NO emotional attachment whatsoever... but for me, it's never been "love" with another woman. That is to say, I've never been "in love" with another woman. But the closeness, companionship, friendship (and the level of love that goes along with that) must be there before I would consider engaging in a sexual relationship. I keep an open mind though... perhaps it's just that the "right woman" has never come along for me - so I'm not closing myself off to the idea of falling for a woman. But I do believe it is unlikely... I just can't see myself in a "settle down together" kind of relationship with another woman.

Despite it all, "bisexual" is what I consider myself to be.

Well, for me right now, it's about sex! I am SO horny! lol Not that I'm getting any... I wish I was! In school, I always wondered about girls, but was too afraid to do anything, but I also couldn't seem to pick out the right guys and then my last boyfriend (about FIVE years ago) was an asshole and I had by then been so abused, I guess, that I just had no sexual feelings for guys. I still had guy friends, though until recently, they were all gay, so safe... I knew the sexual feelings were still somewhere, but in the meantime, I decided to come out as lesbian. I never managed to have a real relationship with a woman or have sex, but I did kiss a drag king on stage...that was nice...anyway, about a month ago, this straight guy was actually being really nice to me and all of a sudden I was hot all over and I wanted to have sex with him, so in my head, I was like, "Oh great, well, I guess I'm really bi!" With women, I feel a connection, and like I could have a deep relationship, but with men, I just feel like I could have sex, but I know I need to work through that. I know that there are good straight guys out there, but if I went out with one of them, he would have to be patient with me.