
Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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when i decided to "come out," it was driven by a realization that i was comfortable with emotional and physical connections with either gender, and that what attracted me to someone was not gender first, personality traits/physical characteristics second.
rather - it was who they were, regardless of gender, that attracted me.
for this reason, i consider myself bi-sexual.
yes - i have had sex with women and men. i've enjoyed sex with men and women. but i was having sex with both men and women long before i considered myself bi-sexual.
reading some of the posts here, i wonder if most people don't think of bi-sexual as strictly a "sex thing."
you read comments like "i'm a husband who's worried about anal sex" or "how do i meet guys for my first sexual encounter" or "how do i come on to my girlfriend."
these are valid concerns.
but is wanting to try anal sex (top or bottom) really what makes you bi?
is a drunken romp with your bestest girlfriend at someone else's bachorlette party really what makes you bi?
tell me - why do you think you're bi-sexual?
i'm curious. bi-curious you might say...
rather - it was who they were, regardless of gender, that attracted me.
for this reason, i consider myself bi-sexual.
yes - i have had sex with women and men. i've enjoyed sex with men and women. but i was having sex with both men and women long before i considered myself bi-sexual.
reading some of the posts here, i wonder if most people don't think of bi-sexual as strictly a "sex thing."
you read comments like "i'm a husband who's worried about anal sex" or "how do i meet guys for my first sexual encounter" or "how do i come on to my girlfriend."
these are valid concerns.
but is wanting to try anal sex (top or bottom) really what makes you bi?
is a drunken romp with your bestest girlfriend at someone else's bachorlette party really what makes you bi?
tell me - why do you think you're bi-sexual?
i'm curious. bi-curious you might say...
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with emotional and physical connections with both genders, and that what attracted me to someone was personality first, physical characteristics second.
it was who they were, regardless of gender, that attracted me."
Same for me although i'm emotionally attracted to men and phisically to girls. I've sorta known I was bi for a while but I just figured it out recently. I don't think about it as a "sex thing" I never have.
I enjoy sex with both.
An attractive girl will always get my attention,as will an attractive man.
With a women,I want to make love to her,explore her whole body and engage in a lot of foreplay.With a man,for me,the attraction is his personality.If he is someone that I feel I want to know better,his looks are not the most important thing.I am attracted to his penis.
I hope this does not make me sound like a shallow person.
Oh, and I plan to wait for the right person yet before I have sex. Yes, I know I'm pushing that 40 year old virgin soon but if I'm gonna give my most intimate part of myself, I want to be sure I'm with the right person and whom I love. It isn't one night stands for me. I get hurt too easily and so much emotions get involved it would trigger things I cannot deal with.
So, in short-more emotional vs. physical for me when it comes to bisexuality.
beautiful answers.
But after a while it kind of changed.
When I'm attracted to a female, it's usually all the elements combined: physical, emotional, intellectual, ect. Just like my 'crushes' on males.
I have had strong emotional and physical feelings for a few females over the past 3 years... but I've made a personal choice not to have a relationship with a female. I am only open to males involving relationships of a physical nature and that sort of thing.
As far as strictly physical attraction, I find females far more attractive than males.
But as far as what is involved in making a relationship (in my opinion), it would have to be with a male.
I have not figured myself out 100% yet. It is still confusing at times, and a struggle. But inside, I feel as if I am handling it well, and I do know what I want.
I guess I am bi because it is the connection that I make with someone that defines how I feel about them. In that there is obviously some physical attraction, but overwhelmingly its an emotional connection with them. I have had really deep emotional connections with two guys and one girl. The fact that they haven't just been with men or women really does make me bi...
I realy like this line from MercuryRa.
Personally it's not a sex thing for me but in my journey to understanding my sexuality I've had to ask myself some questions like what's the difference between being bisexual and simply being someone who is capable of enjoying sex with either a man or a woman?
Allthough I have not had sex with a man "yet" I have Considered it often and more so lately. I definitely find some guys attractive both in a personal and physical way. So I do feel it may come down to a sexual encounter somewhere in the future. So thats my 2 cents.
Peace along the way
Does anybody else feel the same way? Or, if not, I would like to hear any opinions.
When it comes down to it, i'm a deep person. Every single emotion people betray I'll catch. I'm a "people watcher" you could say. To me, life is like a secret box. I want to examin it from the outside. From every angle, and then take it apart, peice by peice and examin every single peice from every angle. And at the end, I want to see what's on the inside. And in turn examin that.
And after all the examining, I'll ask questions about it. Why is it this way? Why does it do this? Why is it. . .etc.
So, when it comes down to my own personal sexuality i don't look at any ONE thing first, but the thing as a whole.
haha, that probably didn't make sence to a lot of you. . .but just think on it i guess
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for many of us, there's an emotional part to.. but that comes along with being human, not what our sexual orientation is.
For me, honestly, it started with just the sex. I had only ever been with my husband and I had sexual fantasies about women. Once I got my first girlfriend, I realized it was way more than that.. but that's on a human level, not a gender one.
does anal sex make you bi or gay? absolutely not.. it's just an erogenous zone like any other. Wanting anal sex with another man? That makes you bi/gay.
As far as making out while drunk.. my sister had done this too many times to count yet insists she isn't bi. I don't think straight people have drunken homosexual experiences just by accident. I think these are people who are bi or bicurious, but are unwilling to admit it, or need the aid of alcohol to lower their inhibitions.. especially if one has strong beliefs against homosexuality.
With me, as a "bisexual" female... it has more to do with sex than an emotional attachment. HOWEVER... I don't much care for down and dirty sex with NO emotional attachment whatsoever... but for me, it's never been "love" with another woman. That is to say, I've never been "in love" with another woman. But the closeness, companionship, friendship (and the level of love that goes along with that) must be there before I would consider engaging in a sexual relationship. I keep an open mind though... perhaps it's just that the "right woman" has never come along for me - so I'm not closing myself off to the idea of falling for a woman. But I do believe it is unlikely... I just can't see myself in a "settle down together" kind of relationship with another woman.
Despite it all, "bisexual" is what I consider myself to be.