Bisexuality Support Group

Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.

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Christian and Bisexual?

Can someone truly be a Christian as well as bisexual? Anyone else grapple with this thought? I have struggled with it for about a year now. I love God and Jesus and consider myself to be Christian. B u t, I like girls too. Your ideas on this matter would be most aprreciated. Thanks.

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deleted_user
deleted_user

It's been a long time since I've been active in the Christian community. I left the church over ten years ago for reasons that had nothing to do with my sexuality but now I'm reluctant to go back because of my sexuality. Coming from a Christian background and then taking it upon myself to study and talk to others of different faiths, I feel that we at times have a narrow sense of God and fashion such an incomprehensible Mystery according to our own liking. I prayed often to have my same sex feelings taken away. I thought that once I got married and being physically intimate with my husband on a regular basis would make it all go away. In reality it only exasperated my true feels. Then one day I finally got honest with myself and with God. In a prayer I said "Lord I don't understand this and I don't know why I'm like this but I trust that You do and all I can do is accept it and try to grow in my understanding of it all. God, I'm bisexual." It's strange how at that point I just felt at peace. I realized that it's not God who condemns us, it's our own conscious and others. Through prayer and introspection I learned that I'm still a good person. Being bisexual doesn't make me "evil". It doesn't make me immoral. Actually, I'm more aware of my intentions and feelings now in regards to women and sex than I ever was in my relationships with men. And I think that's where you have to really pay attention. People only look at the surface material of a person. God sees into our hearts. In love if your intentions and feelings are true and good and your expressions of that love doesn't led to any pain or anguish within yourself or others, than the sex of the person you love shouldn't matter. It's the spirit in which we love that matters the most. That's what I've learned from God. People on the other hand may tell you differently but ultimately you will have to make the decisions that will bring you the most peace.
I hope that helped a little.
deleted_user
deleted_user

My personal opinion (as someone who identifies as queer and atheist but that has spent a lot of time considering christianity) is that christianity and any form of non hetrosexual within a marriage sexual activity is incompatible. That is to say identifying as bisexual is not problematic, but acting upon same sex sexual desires would be.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Even more difficult for me coming from Roman Catholic tradition (yet we all know the scandals that came from that as well), I have struggled to define myself as a child of God or an aberration brought by some evil I must have done...It is strange these thoughts, and the confusion is something I feel God's enemy (i.e., the devil) revels in. Through our confusion, the devil wishes us to think that our ways are either not of God's and therefore unworthy of His love; the other side may think that the devil wishes us to believe that we are free to be who we are, and that maybe falsely make us to believe God did create us this way.

Many hard core Bible enthusiasts will point out verses from Leviticus or Timothy 2, or Corinthians to show that the word of God condemns these feelings...How much more confusion when people debate who help write the Bible, as being inspired from the Holy Spirit...and then later taught that we are to fear the Holy Spirit.

Is it any wonder why there are increased suicides among us particularly who are afraid to be themselves, thinking they will be condemned eternally...and how much more not knowing the TRUTH of God to die and find out that we could have loved the way we felt in our hearts all along, and yet we were deceived by man's views of what was His true intentions.

Damned if you do; damned if you don't. With this issue I'm constantly at an impasse, and I do believe it has been the core or root to my finally breaking down and being diagnosed as bipolar. The affective disorders, mostly depression, has had its grip on me due to the fact that I feel I have always struggled to fit in...and constantly asked God to take this cross from me...The major question is WHY has He NOT done so yet?...In my heart, do I sincerely wish to change?....Do I honestly think it wrong to love someone even if they are the same sex?....Life i fascinating with the many opportunities it provides...but oh, so many questions do arise just by living out our lives!

God speed to you on your journey for resolution.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I was brought up Baptist, but gave up on Christianity years ago, then went religion shopping for many, many years, finally gave up on them all. I consider myself an ethical Atheist, as there is no proof whatsoever of any gods, nothing supernatural, and religions seem to only cause hatred, death, grief, and millions of support groups for the damage they've done. Beliefs based on words of judgemental old dead guys has caused untold damage to the world. My best advice: Follow your conscience, live your life, and, if there is a God or Gods, they'll judge you based on your heart.
This is NOT an attack on your religion, it is a simple denouncement of ALL religions.
deleted_user
deleted_user

By the way:
53 times in te Bible, by my last count, the Bible states that the laws are unimportant, only the love for God matters to God.
deleted_user
deleted_user

okay. i'm atheist.. but i really don't understand the whole christian bisexual or christian gay thing. it's not an unforgivable sin.. it's just a sin like any other.. eaten shellfish lately? or ever? same diff. if you're christian then you just accept it's a sin.. do it anyway and ask forgiveness, knowing that your god made you this way. ooooor you can just look at it as that whole thing is as outdated as stoning your children or selling them into slavery.
deleted_user
deleted_user

Well, hlks,
the idea of asking for forgivness stems from the desire not to do it again. If this is your lifestyle, then forgivness is, well, incompatable.
kcjones
kcjones

I am a strong Christian, I am bisexual, and I believe that those two statements are completely compatible. I am a feminist Christian. My minister is lesbian and has a partner. I do not feel guilty, but more alive! Look, the word homosexual was not even coined until the eighteen hundreds! Do a little more research about all those Bible verses that say that homosexuality is a sin and you'll see that all of those verses are really about something else-social situations going on at that time. They were talking about people who had sex for money-they were NOT talking about loving one another. "What the Bible Really Says About Homosexuality" is a good book. Look up the group More Light Presbyterians on the web. There are many ways of looking at Christianity and I will only believe and obey the one that "God is Love" and that incudes ALL of us! You might want to check out my church's website to see what a feminist Christian is like. www.circleofgraceatlanta.org
Jennheimrich
Jennheimrich

DO you really think your God would foraske you for acting out in the way he made you?
RaeofLite
RaeofLite

No offense, but all the "proof" that 'god hates homos, bis and anyone not straight' is so stupid.

I do not really believe in God, but if I did, would he really "smite you" just for loving someone??? Doesn't he teach you that love is the best thing? To love and not hate?

Personally I think that book was written mostly by people that were simply scared of sexuality and the fact that it condems it (back then) was meant to encourage people to reproduce...

Sorry for being blunt. But that's my opinion.

Love who you love, not what some book says.
deleted_user
deleted_user

I feel exactly like you do. I grew up in a Christian school for 8 years and have been taught that bisexuality and homosexuality is wrong. Yes, I have struggled with this too. But remember, we have a forgiving God as long as you repent and feel sorry for what you do bad. Homo and bisexuality is a sin. If you believe if Jesus is the Son of God and that he was sent down so our sins can be forgiven, you'll go to heaven. It's a nice thought =). He'll forgive you no matter what. This has been bugging me to, and it's great that I have supporters =) thanks!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user

If you define "being a Christian" as trying to follow the examples and teachings of Jesus, then it is very possible to be of any sexual and be Christian. Love one another, be honest, help one another, forgive wrongs done to you, don't do wrong to others. Don't judge. be honest. To me these are the ideals that make one a Christian. How we chose to share our bodies doesn't enter into it, unless it hurts us, or we use our bodies to hurt others.
ganzm
ganzm

I have been dealing with this lately. I am a strong Christian but I like girls as well... I believe that God made me like this. If you feel it is right then it is.
balderdashandpiffle
balderdashandpiffle

As a bi christian myself you have to determine what Christianity means to you. Christianity is not a slavish adherence to the Old Testament but rather a daily exercise in faith and love.

The verses from Leviticus that are often used to marginalise us do not apply to a Christian for they belong under the old covenant and are addressed specifically to the children of Israel i.e. not us gentile Christians.

Furthermore the verse in Romans 1 also often cited to say GOd hates us is part of a discourse where the power of God to punish is being expounded - illustrating the power of God to change the nature of man - not a prohibition of homosexuality as such. Furthermore it should be remembered that Romans is fundamentally a castigation of the Jews for not following their law to salvation which now under the new covenant is rent a side and that salvation can now only be achieved through the exercise of faith and not a slavish adherence to the law because the law has failed and is no longer the route to salvation. Also salvation has been extended to all those of faith and not just the Jews. OK then what about Corinthians - well Corinthians talks about catamites in other words about an abusive relationship. Not a consensual activity but a power relationship with vulnerable persons.

So there is no biblical prohibition against homosexual activity for a Christian for it is our faith that will redeem us not adherence to a pharisaical law not made for us anyway.

Besides we are told not to judge others less we be judged. Additionally we all fall short of Gods standard and without Grace achieved through faith it does not matter what we do we will fail to achieve Gods standards.

Look to Jesus' example on how to treat people with tolerance and acceptance. He did not condemn people for who they were but rather exalted those who demonstrated faith. BUt this is a whole other discussion.

So to summarise I believe that you can be a Christian in the true sense of the word and be Bi or any other orientation.
deleted_user
deleted_user

OK, look, here's how it lays down:
I'm a staunch atheist, but have studied the bible & christianity more than anyone except for 2 people I've met, and they were amazing.
Anyone who tells you other than this hasn't done their homework.
OVER 50 TIMES IN THE BIBLE (52 at my last count) "god" says that the laws, rules, commandments are irrelevant; they're just a guide for living. THE ONLY LAW THAT MATTERS, THE ONLY THING "HE" WANTS IS YOUR LOVE.
That's right, over 50 times.
I've read the bible cover-to-cover 7 times & have paid attention.
You really don't get connections till multiple readings.
Get an NIV study bible.
After that, judging anyone for anything based on the bible is silliness in the extreme.
So there.