Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
Is bisexuality synonymous with threesomes? Personally I don't think so. I don't think that being bisexual automatically means that I'm dying to bring another woman to my bed for me and my husband to enjoy but this seems to be the prevailing image of bisexuals.
I don't want to knock anyone who takes pleasure in such activities but I just have to ask does simply having the ability to enjoy sexual acts with members of both sex make one bisexual? I've been on other message boards and read the posts of men and women who have stated that they enjoy having sex with members of the same sex but wouldn't get romantically involved with someone of the same sex. Some even mentioned that they wouldn't even kiss someone of the same sex because kissing is a really intimate act. Is it possible that some people mistake their need for sexual excitement for bisexuality? To me such people just seem highly sexual. They seem to be more turned on by the thrill of the sexual experience rather than the person they're having sex with.
I'm not trying to divide the bi community up into more groups by asking such questions but sometimes when I come across ads of people who say that they're bi and they're looking for someone of the same sex for a night of fun, I start to wonder. Wouldn't it be better if ads read something along the lines of: Caring bisexual woman looking for a meaningful relationship with a loving man or woman? What about the emotional, spiritual and intellectual side to bisexuality and bisexuals? And what about those of us who believe in commitment, who are willing and wanting to have committed intimate relationships whether it's with just one special person or two?
I don't want to knock anyone who takes pleasure in such activities but I just have to ask does simply having the ability to enjoy sexual acts with members of both sex make one bisexual? I've been on other message boards and read the posts of men and women who have stated that they enjoy having sex with members of the same sex but wouldn't get romantically involved with someone of the same sex. Some even mentioned that they wouldn't even kiss someone of the same sex because kissing is a really intimate act. Is it possible that some people mistake their need for sexual excitement for bisexuality? To me such people just seem highly sexual. They seem to be more turned on by the thrill of the sexual experience rather than the person they're having sex with.
I'm not trying to divide the bi community up into more groups by asking such questions but sometimes when I come across ads of people who say that they're bi and they're looking for someone of the same sex for a night of fun, I start to wonder. Wouldn't it be better if ads read something along the lines of: Caring bisexual woman looking for a meaningful relationship with a loving man or woman? What about the emotional, spiritual and intellectual side to bisexuality and bisexuals? And what about those of us who believe in commitment, who are willing and wanting to have committed intimate relationships whether it's with just one special person or two?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I'm stopping now because it's getting too late to be coherent and I'll start rambling.
But like you I believe bi is NOT synonymous with threesome, when dealing with a married woman.
Threebes rock
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Sexuality is on a 1 to 10 scale, hetero to homo, and no one is a 1 or a 10, everyone at least recognizs attractiveness in both sexes.
I myself am not emotionally attracted to men, but an occaisional romp, even annually, is a necessary part of my sexuality.
And yes, 3-somes rock for me because my sexuality is such that a man and woman at the same time is SUCH a turn-on.
I see the same kind of thing going on in the straight community.
To me what it means to be a bisexual varies from day to day. My same sex desires have an ebb and flow that is independent of my opposite sex desires. There are days when I am more attracted to women there are days when Im more attracted to men and there are days when both would be good. The bisexual label serves only as a starting point for me. It really tells very little about who I am and what my interests are it just is a way to tell others that I enjoy sex with both sexes. Im not sure why I prefer emotional relationships with women yet want sex with both men and women.
I have happened to choose to live my life as a monogamous bisexual. That dosnt say anything about my attraction to both sexes it just says I have chosen to live my life a certain way. I dont believe this makes me any less bisexual or not a REAL bisexual.
Getting caught up in the specifics of what a label means can result in just more stereotypes. There are many different ways of expressing our bisexuality and I dont think there is a right way or wrong way, there is a my way and a your way and even a three way . Sometimes they will be the same others they will be different.
I hope this makes sense.
Mark
I try to stay short because my posts tend to be honest, but not pc, thanks for listening.