You've got guts, girl! When I was 14, I was too scared to even THINK about being Bi or queer or anything like that. I was curious, but my father's shotgun threats about finding any of us boys being queer kept me solidly on the Right. I'm so sorry that your father has reacted in this way. I have endured temendous criticism and rejection from others throughout most of my life. Over the last several years, I realized that I needed to accept myself as I am, regardless of what others think. I need to be true to myself, no matter what others say or do. I wish I could offer a solution to your dilemma, but I know of none. Do youknow anyone your age who is also bi? Anyone you could trust and talk to? They won't replace your father, but maybe they will help you find ways to cope so that you will have some inner peace. I know that isn't easy--I STILL react to the ugly things my parents beat into me and I've been 'grown-up' for quite a few years now.
It is hard for me to understand why any parent would reject their child over sexual orientation. All I can say is that they really have no clue the damage that does, let alone how hard it can be to 'get over'. I applaud your courage and I hope you will find it within yourself to stand tall and be true to yourself even though your father has shut you out. Maybe over time, he will realize that you are going to be who you are, no matter what he thinks. For him, this is a profound moral dilemma, one he has never had to deal with. He simply doesn't know how to deal with it, so he has pushed you away. Also, you are asserting your independence from both of your parents. This usually causes some disruption in the family. Nearly EVERYBODY goes through that:)
I don't know if anything I have said will help or not, but I hope it does. Take care, Tash, and keep your chin up. You'll respect yourself more for it later on.

Hats off to you for boldly exposing your true self. Your dad will hopefully come around in time. He needs time to sort out your identity and will in the end come to you and discuss this shock of his. Sometimes people need time to assimulate new information. Give him some time.

Also, depending on what your families religious affliation is? The wait for your father to "come around" might be a long time, at this point I would celebrate your bold step into authenticity and find joy in it for YOU! This is after all about YOU and no one else. Take pride in who you are and show it to the world.

Nice to meet you my sister!

Mystic

Totally applause to you for telling your parents...I haven't told my parents...mainly because i'm still not sure...But I do know how hard it can be for your parents not to even look at you for something you've done...but in this case it's something you can't control...When my parents found out about me cutting they didn't look at me...Granted they got me help...But they didn't look at me...and that kind of hurt...and it didn't make things much better...the only thing I can say is to give your dad some time...He may come around...and he may never come around...Unfortunatly there are people like that out there that don't care...But if your friends know they can help you...My bestfriend is gay and his dad is convinced he's straight...It use to hurt him...But now he just pokes fun at it...Granted it still hurts...But he's found people that understand and that love him for who he is...once you find those people the crying will slow down

d*** that took guts! I gotta say, I'm to scared to tell my family. Only my closest friends and people who have no idea who i really am and or have no way to tell my parents are the people i can even think about telling. Tash, I guess since i have'nt much experience in this a can't give you any advice... So I walnt to ask you something: Does your mother accept you?

I applaud you for being able to do something that I could not and I'm 30. All of my good friends know and some of my siblings have figured it out. I never got a chance to tell my father because he died and I know if I told my mother, our relationship would be worse then it is now. I had some bad experiences telling some of my friends, but in time, people started to accept it and move on. I really hope your father comes around with time. No child should alienated by their parents for something they can't help.

well , i give you props for your courage & i wanna let you know im behind you 100%. I just recently told my mother that im bisexual and before i told her she knew about my bisexual friends and she loved them and they were amazing and she had no problem with it , sticking up for gays and everything. and ever since i tol dher.. she has been like.. mad i guess. i mean not acting different but she told me im the reason we're moving & i lay in my bed scared every night because i used to see my girlfriend every weekend and now i have to sneak around =/ but im scared and i feel your pain. i could only imagine how you feel because i definiley did not tell my dad yet but im not going to until i can get my own apartment/house becausethen i know if he leaves me alone, then im already alone. I say you just cope with it and keep coming here for advice and support and stay true to yourself .. do not change for NOBODY. and make sure you accept yourself before youexpect others to accept you. Hope this sort have helped

well , i give you props for your courage & i wanna let you know im behind you 100%. I just recently told my mother that im bisexual and before i told her she knew about my bisexual friends and she loved them and they were amazing and she had no problem with it , sticking up for gays and everything. and ever since i tol dher.. she has been like.. mad i guess. i mean not acting different but she told me im the reason we're moving & i lay in my bed scared every night because i used to see my girlfriend every weekend and now i have to sneak around =/ but im scared and i feel your pain. i could only imagine how you feel because i definiley did not tell my dad yet but im not going to until i can get my own apartment/house becausethen i know if he leaves me alone, then im already alone. I say you just cope with it and keep coming here for advice and support and stay true to yourself .. do not change for NOBODY. and make sure you accept yourself before youexpect others to accept you. Hope this sort have helped

well , i give you props for your courage & i wanna let you know im behind you 100%. I just recently told my mother that im bisexual and before i told her she knew about my bisexual friends and she loved them and they were amazing and she had no problem with it , sticking up for gays and everything. and ever since i tol dher.. she has been like.. mad i guess. i mean not acting different but she told me im the reason we're moving & i lay in my bed scared every night because i used to see my girlfriend every weekend and now i have to sneak around =/ but im scared and i feel your pain. i could only imagine how you feel because i definiley did not tell my dad yet but im not going to until i can get my own apartment/house becausethen i know if he leaves me alone, then im already alone. I say you just cope with it and keep coming here for advice and support and stay true to yourself .. do not change for NOBODY. and make sure you accept yourself before youexpect others to accept you. Hope this sort have helped

Tash:

You are part of the new generation who can openly admit to being bi. The vast majority of people over 40 think that we are freaks. I hid my status for 45 years. You have to remember that not everyone is going to accept you for what you are. It must be very painful that your father does not accept this. You can only live your life and give him time to come around.

Good luck