Bisexuality Support Group
Bisexuality is a sexual orientation which refers to the aesthetic, romantic, and/or sexual attraction of individuals to other individuals of both their own and the opposite gender or sex. Most bisexuals are not equally attracted to men and women, and may even shift between states of finding either sex exclusively attractive over the course of time.
I am a 33 year old bisexual woman that is not currently in a same sex relationship. I have a boyfriend and I love him, but I still crave the touch and the intimacy that only a woman can provide. The thing is that the person I crave is my best friend, who describes herself as "bicurious". She's acknowledged that she has feelings for me that are more than friendly, but she has never acted on them. We talked about it several times but decided not to do anything because of our religious faith and because she was getting married. I hoped that eventually my feelings would go away but here it is a year later and I'm just as in love with her as I was on day one. She admits that she has feelings for me as well, but doesn't want to hurt her husband. I love this woman and don't want to loose her friendship but it is becoming increasingly hard to supress my feelings. My question is, how do I get this woman out of my system? I think about her all the time and find myself wondering "what if". Although I know we would be awesome together, that's not possible, so I need to move on. I just can't seem to cut off my feelings for her. Please help!! Has anyone been in a situation like this before? How did you deal with it and move on? I don't want to loose my friend.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I've been with my boyfriend for 9 years, but last winter I fell deeply in love with a close female friend. I told her how I felt. Since I didn't want to have an affair and didn't want to leave my guy. the woman and I decided cut off contact completely because the whole situation was too painful. I still think about her quite a bit and miss our friendship horribly, but I see no other solution.
It's a VERY hard situation. The only thing I definitely suggest you avoid is having an affair, which it sounds like you're already clear about not doing, because that just makes everything so complicated and at least one person always ends up getting hurt.
All my best, Ave
I know it sucks. I am coming out the other side of feeling much like you do now. Well, not quite the same. I figured out that my friend liked me at uni, we went out and stuff and it all culminated in me sleeping with her. After that I flipped out at bit and decided that I wanted to date men not women. I suppressed the feelings I had and we stopped seeing eachother. 7 years later and engaged I met her again and found I still liked her. Told my other half, discussed it with him in detail, he is very understanding (way more than I would have been). Anyway we like eachother. But ultimately its a choice. Him or her. I can't have both.
I choose him, because he is the person (not man, but person) that I want to spend my forever with. If he wasn't I would end my relationship with him because he would deserve better than someone that couldn't love him that much.
I still have a crush on her but it is receding. I know that she isn't the person that I want to spend all my tomorrows with.
I guess you have to think about your relationship, is the person that you are with that person? If he is then you have made your choice and you have to learn to live with it. I am learning, its hard because she and I have a connection, she can see into me, but there isn't another choice that I can make.
It is good to hear from you again, I have been kind of busy so haven't checked in with you lately. BOY I wish I had YOUR problems!!!!!! Funny! You, of course, should do what you want to do. If you want to stay home with hubby do it. I'm sure your hubby won't mind no matter what you decide to do! I am laughing here because your situation seems so unbelievably awesome. BUT! If it were me in my broken relationship, I'd be all over that party!!!!!!! That's what I'd want to do, but probably wouldn't ...