hey as your husband is open minded that good and you find a girl then it may be a good thing where he can be involved as well. Meanwhile i got a girl shes bi as well as she wants a girlfriend and as i want A Boyfriend if that happend i figured it be like finding two kids in a candystore.

worlds best traveler i would have to agree with you. I got a boyfriend Jarred 24 years old hes not into guys but im into girls but he thinks it would be great if i got a girlfriend as well.

my bf loves I like girls what guy wouldnt but.. I don't no if I could ever date a girl and him at the same time.
but sex now thats a diffrent story in it own

We have had the opp more a couple of times, to include another female and I was always the one to back out. My husband was all for it, b/c like it's said.. "what guy wouldn't". I'm struggling with the fact that I am falling in love with a woman, and honestly... I don't want to share her with my husband. How is ok to be that selfish? But I LOVE my HUSBAND too! I feel selfish for wanting both.

I wrote a reply the other day that sort of addressed this issue...

WHY do you love them both. I don't mean that derogatory at all. What I mean is what is MISSING that SHE can fulfill?

Are you very feminine with hubby and take on a more masculine role with a woman. That would be an are that would cause some to NEED someone else?

Is it that you NEED to FEEL the softness your hubby can't provide?

Sexual is always easier for a guy to get then emotional... if there is ANY EMOTIONAL aspects that you and your hubby are lacking that would cause me to say work those out before you fall in love with someone else or your marriage may fail anyways.

Emotional Love and Sexuual Love and Being in our world is so so difficult.

I got lucky I realized that for me I love A PERSON not a GENDER. It took years to get to this point. It cuased all sorts of pain on both sides.

The woman I loved died after I was married and I never told her how I felt about her. she was my best friend ALL Through school. I always planned to talk to her but the timing was never right and when she came down with leukemia It was never right.

So she died, and I missed all the emotional support we provided each other even though it was never sexual. I had encounters with woman but never the way I felt about her.

It was the emotional piece I needed to deal with. Now I am very happily married. He and I both look at the cute girls. there is this one nice lady at a sophisticated brew pub we go to Its not a bar at all. That we both think is hot and after going there the sex is amazing.

All I can say is be careful you may loose a great thing if you are not!!

interesting question...if you find the answer let me know because i'm stuck there too! i really have no desire to share with either my husband or my gf. i'm in between not wanting to loose my husband and wanting to be 100% with her...tough place to be...and in response to what not2sure wrote..i was the same way it was not the gender i was attracted to but the person and now this person who happens to be a woman is in my life and i can't escape it! wings...i feel guilty when i think about it for the same reasons...and we do probably because our gf relationship means more then just something thats lacking in our relationships with our husbands...i could be wrong about that but thats sort of what it feels like.

i have the same problem so that is why i don't have serious relationships with girls right now. i did and it turned out to be too much drama. she couldn't handle me being married but she knew it when we got together. and i met her off of a phone chat.