i reached out just now and hapless gave me a hug, i sure needed it hapless, thanks again

I feel that I reach out to everybody I know, unconditionally. Even people I don't know. If I see somebody who looks a bit down, I'll stop and check they're ok. Sometimes I think it might be selfish, and purely for my self-gratification, increasing my own feeling of self-worth. But bipolar is a very selfish illness, I think.

I often feel I have been pushed away by those that I have reached out to, when really I know that isn't the case. People try their best for me, they really do, but nothing ever seems to be good enough for me. I'm very 'all or nothing' and that's something I really dislike about myself.

I do. I don't have very much contact with the outside world now adays. It seems every time I go out I dissapoint my husband in one way or another. Ruin his time I should say. I always feel like I want to go somewhere and when I get there. I want to go home. I hate being away from home. So when I get a panic attack or something he totally does not understand it. He is the one I am with all of the time. So it is difficult for me because he shows no since of compasion, worry or anything. I try to explain but I don't think he gets it. Sometimes I just want him to hold me and say something nice to me. Or make me feel good by doing something. I hate having to hint. That don't work eighter. I am starting to think he is not the one for me. For the 3rd time around. I just feel I can't be with someone so cold. I am a girl. That is what I keep telling him. Ok a crazy girl sometimes. But I need someone.

If I have something to offer someone here, I try to give it to them. However, more often than not when I put a post out it is ignored or answered by only a few people. I really don't care unless it is something I am really struggling with. I do have to say though there are people here who get reponses more than others. It's like anything else. I guess you get out of it what you can and leave the rest. I don't know. Good luck finding an answer!

Do what you can cope with.

Hi, clarity07!!!
I try to, most of the time. When someone asks a question to which I have nothing helpful to add, I skip it.
Depending upon my own mood, I sometimes try to help, sometimes not.
At times, I am in a place where I cannot bear to read of others pain. It only adds to my own and I redeem the right to not drive myself over the edge, when I am already tottering on the precipice.

I reach out and help whenever I am able and even sometimes when I need help myself. I often put myself on hold to help someone else.

I have been pused aside and away when I have asked for help but thats life and not everyone is able to help or offer help. we do what we can when we can and noone can ask more of you than that.

I can reach out and help as long as no one starts calling me names. Then I shut down, log off and go outside.

I would like to think that I am available for any who need help, but the truth of the matter is that there are some who can not or will not accept help.

The other posters are right---help those you can and pray that someone else can help those whom you can't.

I would like to thank all of you for your comments and suggestions. I feel the love and the openness here. I am so glad we do find some way or some how to be there for ourselves in the same for others.

Everyone have a great weekend!!!

(((HUGS)))

i dont' really understand what it is you are saying. what do you mean when you say we are here for ourselves and itt is so wrong to want to help anybody that is reaching out?

is it so wrong to want to help

sorry my english can be better!