c'mon, people...I wanna hear your comments, too! (thanks for bringing it up, starv)

because they're lazy?

maybe it's some darwinian thing, first woman to catch them?

because they are afraid of rejection if they pursue.

I have never been good at signals...I have always had to be chased,

That is a good question... I think it is an ego question... It really boosts my ego when a women chases after me, but I also think it is a lack of self esteem... Men need to have someone tell them they are okay... If a women chases them then there must be something good about them... I can't stand it, and when my wife does leave me that will be the last thing on my mind...

because men are just an insecure about themselves as women are.

good fucking question!

It's the game. They like to play it, it makes them feel powerful or something.

But I also like to play it. MUAHAHA

The best thing to do in the "game" Is to treat the guy like the girl.

Okay, treat me like a girl, but DO NOT stick anything in me...

i had met a guy, and we were getting to know each other and there was definitely a connection there....and then he backed off and pulled away...then some days went by and i figured "ok he's lost interest" so i sent him an email saying "you're seem like a great person but i'm not really looking for acquaintances right now"

when he gets the email he tells me "sorry i've been really busy, but if that's how you feel then ok, no hard feelings, no worries, have a nice life, etc"

then he tells my sister he doesn't get it, and he was just busy....i'm the sort of person that thinks if you like someone you will find time to talk to them...if you don't then you won't. period. apparently that's not what he thinks....arrrggghhhh!!! they never do say what they're really thinking do they? and now he's acting all hurt and rejected....well what did he expect after not talking to me for over a week?

MEN!!

awww come on mrtim that's the best part

For you...

fuckem. he sounds like an ass that wants to be chased. i say if a man isn't ga ga over you, then piss on 'em... they're hard enough to tame.

there's nothing worse than a man that won't fucking admit he's in to you and wants to be chased. let someone else deal with that nightmare.

A little angered response from CAM... Alright anyone else want jump on the fuck em band wagon?

that was kinda what i was thinking, as in if he really liked me he would make the effort, and if he doesn't make the effort even if he does like me.....well, who wants that guy? hence the email....i do think i did the right thing...it's just that up until the point where he pulled away things were really clicking and it seems a shame to fuck that up just because he needs an ego stroke....soooo frustrating...also he's younger than me so that is probably a factor too, needing that reassurance

maybe because their are alot of insure men out there who don't have the conidence it takes to make the first step