Bipolar Disorder Support Group

Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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when someone you love is extremely hateful to you

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i love my fiance dearly and try to understand that he is not himself but he gets so hateful and uncaring towards me but showers all kinds of affection to the 7 cats we have--i don't get a good morning or how was your day--in the mornings its "feed the cats" or "are you gonna make my coffee?" I wanted to go see my son who lives in another state but can't because i cannot afford it. He was not vwry sympathetic about my feelings.

I guess what i am trying to ask is this: is it normal for bipolar folks to be so damn mean and hateful and uncaring? or is he just a jackass?
When he has his episodes i just get very quiet until they pass

i am at my wit's end--help....
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I get mean and don't want to talk and only pay attention to the dog but I hope I'm not seen as hateful. I don't know.
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I know my brother gets very mean towards everyone close to him when he is having an episode. hes bipolar. I do very rarely, I'm more aware of how I am treating people than he is. Some people just can't see how they are treating others.
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I'm bipolar and we're all similiar but he doesn't sound very caring. If my loved one wanted to go see their son and couldn't, I would do everything I could to comfort them and help. The disorder can make you be very very mean and selfish, but it does pass. The episodes usually follow with guilt and apologies. I think you deserve someone to love you and say good morning and maybe he could make your damn coffee. Nobody deserves to feel that way.
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nevadam:

it does not sound like you are--i can understand your position but he is horrible--if he has to say i love you he makes it sound like the words left a bad tatse in his mouth
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Thank you Miss Jones!
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Wasted ape:

I think he can he just doesn't care
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I had a friend awhile back who was Bipolar like me. I finally had to tell her to stop acting like an ass, using her illness as a license to just treat people any way she wanted. Any time I've treated someone mean while manic I've always gone back to apologize later. This person is my ex-friend. It sounds like you need an Ex-Fiance. Don't let him get away with treating you badly and blaming it on his illness. This is a form of abusing you. Will he start punching you next? Show the Lad the door.
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