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When everything you do gets labeled as BP

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I am in sadly familiar situation. My soon to be ex and I just had a conversation (not usually a good thing to do), but things were going ok, until he started labeling all the things I was doing as part of my "mental illness." Now, let me preface the rest of this post with the explanation that one of the reasons that led to me wanting a divorce is that he doesn't "believe" in BP, didn't want me taking meds, and would constantly tell me that everyone has problems like I have. Now he's back to telling me that when I furrow my brow, it's because I'm BP; when I smile during a fight, that's because I'm BP. While we were together, I did indeed try to jump out of the car while it was still moving (slowly) because he would not stop ranting--this he won't stop brining up as an example of my BP and how I am unfit to take care of our daughter. I am really frustrated because I thought I had moved beyond letting him have this power over me.
I am just wondering if any of you have ever hd a similar experience where someone tries to make you feel crazy because they know it's a "sore" spot with you.
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Exact opposite, here. My husband is more like yours was before your divorce/separation. He dosnt understand bp, and dosnt think all the things that ARE associated with it have anything to do with it.

i feel your frustration, lesuco, and im hoping it gets better for you, honey!
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I've been there before. I am back with my ex about 1.5 years, divorced 3 years ago. He pulled those tricks on me alot. One of our friends said he liked keeping me seated in the crazy section, and that he'd drive a "normal" person crazy, not to mention a BP. I've also had a boyfriend who would taunt me, but then considering the source, he was an addict, jobless, irresponsible, violent, etc. I am sorry to hear your marriage didn't last, but you deserve better than that. You need someone who is supportive and understanding. Maybe even being alone will allow your heart to heal and maybe someday you can find someone who is more caring & understanding.
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Oddly enough, my stbx has addiction issues. I have read that being BP and being with an addict is about the worst thing one can to for one's mental health. Perhaps he is trying to help himself appear normal and without fault.
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I'm sorry that I can't be of any help. I live alone and am alone about 95% of the time. I am pretty much my own friend and enemy.
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God! I would kill to be alone that much....sweet sweet peace...myself is my best friend and my worst enemy.
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my husband as well thinks every little change in look, color, or sound is a BP episode. He constantly will sit there even if nothing is going on and be like " whats ur prob? whats wrong now? are u getting sad again? and its like hes anxiously awaiting the nex episode I hve. I do admitt i have them often, but when he does that it sends me into them and then we get into the biggest fights, which can last for hours, all because its like once the ball gets rolling, it spins out of control. I am affraid we will divorce because since i have been diagnosed its been this way.
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my sister does it every time we get in a fight only she points out that I was put in a mintal holpital... and that I'm not fit to take care of my dog... so I know how you fill... just don't do any thing to rash... or the cort may not let you see your doughter... every time you wana strangle him just picture her face... that will help some
dobiedots
dobiedots
After 3 divorces I learned to just walk out and never look back. Why bother talking to someone that hurts you emotionally? He doesn't have to have contact w/you anymore, you can make arrangements regarding your daughter & his visitation rights. Are there? If not, tell him to move his non-bipolar butt out of your life. As women, we tend to put up w/a lot of crap. We don't have to, we are worthwhile human beings whose feeling MATTER! If someone can't treat you with respect, you don't need them in your life. Hope I'm not coming off too harsh. I just get tired of seeing people take advantage of us just because we're bipolar. And yes, I had the same experience w/my third exhusband. It's excruciatingly painful. Don't put up with it.
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i AGREE i HAVE BEEN IN THE HOSPITAL 4 TIMES IN THE LAST YEAR. my HUSBHAND DOES NOT NO HOW TO HANDLE THE DESEASE SO HE THROUGHS IT IN MY FACE WHEN WE ARE FIGHTING.wE ALL HAVE TRIED TO TALK TO HIM AND WE ARE GOING TO COUNSILING BUT EVERYTHING IS MY FAULT.AND I KNOW SOME IS MINE.BUT HE MAKES ME FEEL LIKE IM CRAZY.
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Part of being BP is doing stuid things. IE your wanting to jump out of the (slowly) moving car. Your soon to be X sounds like an unsuportive jacka$$. As long as you are seeing a Dr. and are medicated or in theropy, whatever doing something to manage your BP. He cant keep you from your daughter. If you had cancer he couldnt keep you away.If you wernt dealing with the verbal abuse from him maybe you would not have such extreem mood swings/episodes. I am sure your life will be better with out him. I too have people that make me feel unfit because of my BP, i totally understand where you are comming from. Just rememer you are a good mother even with your BP. And one day instead of letting him get your goat......Tell him where to stick it! He has no right to tell you anything about BP your meds or your treatment. You will feel much better once you break free from the bondage he has you under.
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