oh huh i am sorry to hear your going thru this.. one important thing you need to remember though is that YOU did not cause him to have an affair if he has one it is HIS choice.. Nothing you did or didn't do would cause that.. Were you sick when you got together with him? sounds like he really needs to learn what bipolar is and what it is like for us. Do we chose this disorder , no... we would all make it go away if we could. but i do know that i won't stay with a man who cheats.. life may be hard for awhile after leaving but i won't stay.

Hi, Im patti, and I had to make a choice with my ex husband. I had a baby at the time, she was 18 months old, and my brother in law, got mad at my husband, and snitched him out, and told me he had been cheating, during the last few months of my pregnancy.. ..OMG!! I have two rules in my relationships, 1) dont ever cheat..2) dont ever hit me..He knew thoses rules going in..I had him out of that house within 2 hours, and on a plane, back to mommys house.

I had no money, he left me with 2 jars of baby food, and 1 pk. of smokes..( I dont smoke anymore).. I had no job, and I went to the State office, and applied for help. My sister brought over 2 bags of groceries till I got my first check. It all works out..

You have to stand up for your self hun. you have to teach others how to treat you, or they will take advantage of you..You will regain your dignity, and your self esteem, the faster you get out..I would never tell you to do something I wouldnt do..

Your beautiful, hes loosing all the way around..You want someone, that truly wants you, and takes you the way you are. Hes out there, but you cant find him, while you keep this guy around..

I know, Im tuff as nails. I had to learn how to be this way..I wont let anyone ever walk all over me again.

Good luck, my friend. Ill send ya a prayer .. TucsonAZ (Patti)

u shouldnt have to put up with him cheating on u give him an ultimatum and if he leaves then it will be better for u where is your self respect i am bipolar as well and it is hard but u can do it

Good for you Tucson, strong woman!

You know we need to exchange mesages. I hate to see This current funk your in. I know how you feel! Been there ! I think. my name is jeff

You know we need to exchange mesages. I hate to see This current funk your in. I know how you feel! Been there ! I think. my name is jeff

You know we need to exchange mesages. I hate to see This current funk your in. I know how you feel! Been there ! I think. my name is jeff

It sounds as though you do have some support measures in place so you can leave your cheating husband to maintain your self-respect. You have reached out to your sister, applied for State aid and have found this board which will support you 100% I have a feeling you are the kind of person that will keep reaching out until this chaotic situation is on it's way to being solved. Good luck.

Dear 2tired,
If he chose to cheat, it was for his own reasons and not because of you. Don't give in to this illlness and let it take away your desire to live. You've got to fight it tooth and nail every day. I know you know how much your children need you.

You might be better off by yourself than with a husband that is constantly putting you down. Perhaps you'd feel better if you didn't have that influence around you all the time.

Don't forget our children are our reason for living....they would be lost without us. As their mother, they need you more than you will ever realize. Don't give up on them and don't give up on yourself. You are worth a great deal just the way you are---Bipolar and all.
CC

I AM THE MAN THATDID THE AFF. I ONLY KISD THE WOMAN AND SOME PHONE CALLS AND THAT WAS IS I STOPPED WHAT I WAS DOING BECUZ IT WAS WRONGE I AM RESPONSIABLE FOR MY WRONGE DOING NOT MY WIFE HOW EVER IN THIS LIFE WE HAVE A JOB TO DO NOT GETTING WHAT I NEEDED FROM HOME MADE THE DEVILES TRAPPER EASY TO FOLLOW I AM A CHRISTIAN MAN THAT HAS WALKED IN THE FLESH NOT PROUD OF WHAT I HAVE DONE BUT I ONLY FOCUS ON WHAT GOD CAN DO AND NOT WHAT THE DEVILE HAS DONE I UNDERSTAND WY WIFES PANE BUCUZ 5 YEARS AGAO SHE DID THE SAME THING NOW I DONT MENTION THIS FOR MY REASON FOR DOING WHAT I HAVE DONE BUT IN THIS WORLD THERE IS SIN AND RIGHTIOUSNESS NOT RIGHT AND WRONGE GOD HAS FORGIVEN ME BECUZ I HAVE REPENTED NEVER TO DO THIS AGAIN YOU WOULD BE SURPRISED TO KNOW THAT THIS VERY THING I HAVE PREACHED TO MANY MEN BUT WHEN YOU STAY OUT OF GODS WORD AND PRAYER THIS WILL HAPPEN I LOVE MY WIFE AND I KNOW WHY I SAY THIS WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 17 YEARS AND WE BOTH CAME WITH BAGGAEGE IN TO THIS RELATIONSHIP WE HAVE 2 GREAT KIDS THAT WE BOTH LOVE I HAVE REACHED OUT TO BROTHERS IN THE CHURCH I HAVE CONFESSED TO THE AND THEY HAVE PRAYED FOR US I AM NOT PROUD OF THE HORRIBLE THINGS THAT I HAVE DONE ESPETIALLY TO MY LOVE WE HANDEL BIPOLAR TO OUR BEST I AM VERY INTRESTED IN HER ILLNESS IT IS A FAMILY GIANT IT IS APART OF OUR LIFE I KNOW THAT WE CAN MAKE IT THROUGHT THIS BUT ONLY BY THE POWER OF GOD AND US WILLING TO MOVE FORWARD SO IF YOU WANT TO HELP PRAY FIRST THEN SEND ADVICE

THE HUSBAND THAT BROKE HIS WIFE

RCAT: You bet cha!! I am a proud women with plenty of pride, and I dont need any slob, thats gonna do this to his family..

JUNGAL: I think you got the two storys mixed up, I left my husband 14 years ago..I had the support then, but believe me, Ill never need it again, cuz Ill just kill the jerk, and move on!!! I am only playing around.. I have a good boyfriend now, and he knows, if you disrespect me, you will be gone..I dont need to stay in a relationship like that..

You just have to be true to thy self..
My life after I threw him out was hard, but it was 10 times better than loosing myself, and my dignity.

Good luck,,,Patti

I know what it is like to live in a bipolar world. I have found it very helpful to get involved in a christian church, but the big step was to go to the pastor and get involved with the womens minestries. I had to step out andbe open and honest about my illness and not hide. God has helped me work through all that.

Put all his clothes out on the lawn and set them on fire.

Sorry...that's the "crazy" me talking but it's something I might do

Yahwee - I'm curious as to why you had to tell the women in your church about your bipolar disorder? That's not a requirement of church membership and there is no reason in ANY church to disclose medical information. Why would you want to do that?

I think it's intrusive and controlling, and yelling,(all in caps) in computer terms, for just2's husband to get on and use her account and page name to post a reply here. (#10) That's kind of scary to me.