You shouldn't consider yourself a failure - as parents, we can only guide them and set the best example we're capable of setting. Once they're adults, it's time for them to step forward and take responsibility for their own actions. You can't control her or anything she does and chances are, she may very well do something stupid. The best you can do is be there for her when she learns her lessons and faces the consequences of her own actions.

Tough love does work - at least it has for me. As long as you live through your mistakes, natural consequences always set up the prime atmosphere for learning to be responsible and self-disciplined.

Don't take it hard on yourself, give it to God and let him work his magic. You've done all you can do and it's time to detach a little and take care of yourself. (((hugs)))

Ah, Tumbel...I know how hard that was for you. I've been in your position before, too. Kicked son out with no where to go because of drug use. It was probably the hardest thing I've ever had to do. But it did work.
He ended up living in a crack house for about 6-8 months, with no heat and got a very bad case of pneumonia. That was enough to scare him straight...and that was 2 yrs. ago now. He's still doing well.
I hope it works well for you too and plz don't try to second guess yourself. You did the right thing, even if it doesn't feel like it at this time.

Your health and sanity come first, if you fold then you can't help anyone. Even if your daughter doesn't have a problem with alcohol, going to some al-anon meetings may really help, or support groups for families of people with mental health issues. Good luck.

I suppose it depends on the condition of the situation.
Is it wise to kick a mentally ill person out of the arms of safety?
My opinion is a very high no!
See all those street people? Most of them are unmedicated mentally ill.
I do not know if she is mentally ill or not.
If she is mentally ill I would have better suggested a lock-down and extreme forms of help.
Sounds like she was running rampant. Without any control or structure.
I would simply disagree with your choice if she is mentally ill because I am bad mentally ill and in need of help over my head.
I am not recieving that at home and it is not good.
I cannot take care of myself and need help like a child.
It is just a simple fact.
Obviously, if my brain was working right, I would need no help and could actually have a normal life.
But the facts are the facts and I have no clue how I have been able to go to work over the past few years unless co-workers were loo0king out for me.
My wife and I are at odds and major problems are upon the horizon. She does not nor will not nor cannot comprehend how sick it is that I really am.
What are we to do?

I got kicked out about two years go and it really fucked me up - but now I understand why it had to happen. Messed my life up for a bit though, even though I welcomed it back then. Wish there had been a better way, but that's how it goes. Trust her to make the right decisions.
That's a really hard-core form of tough love, though.

I know it had to be hard to do this but I feel it was the right decision. My daughter is 20 and has a child and is living with me. We are in the process of her trying to find her own place to live for my sanity as well as hers.

Don't blame yourself for what is going on with her.
You need to take care of yourself, and then you might be able to help her.