My request for advice is simple: How do YOU know when it's time to leave your husband/wife because the relationship is so draining? My husband is on meds for his bipolar and they work but he has a TON of other bad issues from his childhood. We've both been to counseling and have taken individual classes for self-help and marriage help. We've also had several meetings with a third party trained counselor. The same issues keep coming up: He feels I am trying to control him no matter what I do or don't do. He also feels I don't want him to see his son, which isn't true. It's almost like he tries to think up reasons to call me a bitch or a nag. Even if I don't say or do anything, I'm a nag in his eyes. I work my a** off 50 hours a week at least. If I ask him what he did today, he gets mad and says that's bullshit that I want to know where he's been or what he's done. Why wouldn't a husband feel comfortable telling his wife what he's been doing? I am SO SICK of it - I can't even have normal conversation. He has a history of drug abuse, disapearing acts, and lying, along with the bipolar. I know there is no miracle drug so I really think he is about the best he will ever be. When do YOU personally figure out that the two of you are just not going to work together and you move on? I am already losing my own identity because I'm always focused on his problems, and I ignore my self and my own interests.
Thanks for anything,
Thanks for anything,
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