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deleted_user
deleted_user
I posted this once but now I can't find it so I hope noone is offended if I post it again. Sorry, I just really need help right now. My huband threw me and the kids out 6months ago for another woman or girl as I like to call her.She is 21 and he is 36. She is a severe alcoholic, smokes a lot of pot and takes way too many nerve pills. Not to mention the fact that when he moved her in we still loved there and she would steal my daughters ADHD medication to get high. She's onlt 21 so cut her a little slack. He on the othwer hand is 36 with responsibilities,like children. He rarely comes around to see them. Whem he does it's shes leaving and you all are coming home. Then when he says no my daughter is devastaed. She is suffering so badly. She failed this first grading period in school. She is now seeing a counselor. Anyway to show just how irresponsible he's being I was in a serious car accident. My dad went to be with the children at childrens hospital, little man wasn't hurt so Curt and Betty brought him to the hospitalto get me. They had the nerve to tell me that they were taking him with them! Like hell! Even with staples in my head I got up went to my dads to be with the girls and took my son. Get this though on the way to my dad she pops open a fifth a vodka and starts drinking it in the backseat with my little boy in the car! If something would have happend we could have lost him! I tried to tell him this but if Betty does it then it's fine! Now that the holidays are here he thinks I'm going to let them take the kids to holiday functions! Over my dead body! First we are still married and he says he doesn't want a divorce at this time he's just confused. I will not allow my kids to think this is a healthy relationship! Then there's thepoint that he's just beins so irresponsible that I don't trust him. Also he hasn't come around hardly at all in 6 months, now that it's the holidays he just wants to pop into their lives to save face in front of his family? No way! I'm severly bi polar is this effecting my judgement? I'm so sorry this is so very long. Thanks guys for any help you can give me...April
Shelly4
Shelly4
Given what you have said about your husband, I dont think your judgement is at all affected by having bipolar disorder. I think that if you fear for the safety of your children while with him and his girlfriend, you should seek a court order to keep him from seeing the kids unsupervised. My brother is in the same situation. His wife drinks and does drugs all the time and is seeing another man who supplies her with the drugs. My brother got a court order stopping her from seeing the kids without supervision and she only sees them for short periods. Then if she gets clean, she can have unsurpervised visits by court order.
deleted_user
deleted_user
First off, you should have thrown HIM out...and he couldn't throw you out unless you let him.
Your judgement is clouded in that you focus on this guy and what he does and doesn't do.
Screw him.
Get away from him. Do legally what you can to protect yourself and your kids. Start focusing on you and your kids.
HannaHana
HannaHana
My children's father only pops into their lives for birthdays and holidays. Then he's gone for months on end. Each time I've talked to my children about how he might not come back (they're both in therapy), he pops back into the picture for a few minutes and I'm the bad guy all over again.

It's horrible to have to deal with. You should get some sort of legal custody as a separated couple. Prayers for your children.
deleted_user
deleted_user
girlfriend, get a good attorney, and make him pay. he's a dipshit, don't let your kids around him.
deleted_user
deleted_user
i agree with cam76 go get an attorney and get on with your life you still have one to live and so do your children..don't make them pay for his screwups..keep them safe..hang in there..love terri
deleted_user
deleted_user
Dear April: After taking care of yourself and the kids first you should seek legal advice as soon as you can. If you can't afford an attorney many women's groups or shelters can usually refer you to one that acts pro bono or at sigificant reduced rates. Looking at the whole picture, what ever it takes you need to achieve any situation that is a calm, consistent and loving environment for you and your children since your situation is already having reprecussions on your child's education. I'm so sorry that it's happening around the holidays. In addition try to build as much of a support system that you can, friends, relatives etc. As for the 21-year-old girlfriend. Don't make excuses for her, she's at much fault as your husband since she's an adult. As for stealing your child's ADHD medication, she is taking pills NOT prescribed for her so that's a legal issue. Good Luck, Sweetie. I wish you lived nearer I would love to share out thanksgiving with you and will be thinking of you. Finally, remember stress is BP's worst enemy.
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