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suffering yourself to help others

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This is something I have and on occassion am still guilty of. But what really gets to me is that the people you suffer for are rarely if ever willing to do the same for you.

what really makes my blood boil is that my daughter is just as guilty of. The good thing with her is that I can sit her down when I can see what is going on. She then steps back and can see it for herself.

Is there anyone you have eve one out of your way to help that has returned the favour. I can name two out of everyone have stopped my life to help.

As BP are we prone to this...do you learn to say no??? I have and I feel guilty but I am not willing to suffer or have my family suffer for someone that will never repay the compassion, time and effort. Harsh I know but it has been a hard lesson to learn...
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Yes I have been putting myself out there for a while I do volunteer work and serve others that are in need. I just pray that i helped them a little and from the seed of humanity that myself and god planted
We hope that change and growth will accour in their lives. I think it selfish of myself togive and expect something in return.
I do hang out with a group of people that will give more of themselves than I do even to me! thatis a powerfull freindship.
Matt
I hope this helps
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My philosophy as some know here is to give without expecting anything in return.

To me it's pure love.

When you expect something back you are not really giving to anyone other than yourself.
dobiedots
dobiedots
Orb is right. You give w/o expecting a return. But we don't have to be Mother Theresas either. Give when you can, don't kill yourself over it. (so to speak).
I learned to say no very early because I only had me to rely on. I had to "conserve energy" and resources. But when I can, I love to help.
deleted_user
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Its not that I ever expect anything in return, thats not why you help or give of yourself.
Its more the ones that you continue to help and they arent even really interested in helping themselves.
If it was that I ws expecting something in return then I wouldnt bother at all...I dont do anything if its expected...
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I give when I can and lie low when I can't. I don't expect anything in return.
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Good point Dobie, I love to help but I dont like being taken advantage of
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Im with Junggal, If people I help throw it back in my face my door is then closed to them. I protect me. I give all the time when I can, and never expect anything in return. :))
deleted_user
deleted_user
yes yes yes!!!! i TOTALLY relate to this. I HATE it. I always say that I've just mastered something hard to do....that im a person who does things for people not to get something out of it......not many people are like that....but i guess bipolar people are.......

anyway glad to know its not just me.
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