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deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok so lets say a brother and his wife invites you to go out to eat at a Casino and you're other brother was suppose to be comming to visit also. The other brother calls and say's he can not make it. The sisterinlaw calls you and asks you if you can babysit instead so they can go alone to the casino to eat. So is this rude? Just because the other brother couldn't make it shouldn't they still at least invite you since they were planning to bring the kids to eat with us? Or Am I taking this out of context? Because I guess my feelings are hurt.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Say that again ?
dobiedots
dobiedots
It is rude and you have a right to be hurt. What the hell were they thinking?
deleted_user
deleted_user
That sucks, I hate it when people include me in something and then change the plans. Seems to happen all the time too.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Very rude if you ask me, dealt with issues like this when Iwas married. It wasn't the ex's fault thou her family was a wild one for sure. Still loved em and miss them all.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's rude. Sounds like something my older sister would do. Some people are just thoughtless and have no manners.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh, geddit now.Tell them straight.
" THIS is what happened.. "..." So what would YOU think if I did this to you...what else am I to think ? "
Kick Ass.
deleted_user
deleted_user
lol pluck... I don't know why I don't voice my oppinion to them. I never have. I don't mind babysitting them at all. This is not the first time something like this has happend. But I just thought it was OK before.. Now it is starting to piss me off.. LOL. I don't feel like there family. I feel more like a nanny... Where I just want to be Auntie. And the thing that gets me is I have to drive the 40 min to their house and 40 min back. I think If they want me to watch the kids they should drop them off at my house. I get sick of always having to be the one driving dam it.. LOL... I am one that don't lake to start any problems in the family I guess. So that is why maybe I don't say anything. While everyone else is in a fight with each other. I am always the one that is nuteral. Sitting back saying yep yep I understand.. Maybe it is because I feel guilty for putting my family through so much.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There's nothing wrong with babysitting if you were asked in the correct manner.

It's important that you make them realise that to be considered as a person that is improving in health...you are entitled to voice yr opinions.Just as THEY are allowed to.Whether that is in anger or better, firm politeness.

You are allowed to be angry or concerned.
It's just as valid to you as it is to anyone that considers themselves 'healthier' than you.
It's a reminder to them too.You must not allow them to view you as 'sane enough' only when it suits them.

This shit makes me Grrrrr !
tommymott
tommymott
That's totally rude. But then that's what family is for! Remember what Ann Landers said, nobody can take advantage of you without your permission. So withold permission and go to the casino by yourself!
nobody666
nobody666
i like tommys idea
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree it is rude...to inviteyou then because the brother isnt coming they ask you to babysit...crappy I say...
deleted_user
deleted_user
yeah it's rude.
deleted_user
deleted_user
There's no lol about it! They are being rude and taking advantage of you. You just gotta tell them how you feel and set some boundries with them. You are a good person and if you don't take care of you, nobody else will either. I only know this from experience. XOXO
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yep, they were rude. And you should ask them to bring the kids to your house. Do you ever say "No" to them? Don't let them take you for granted.
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