My mother's unfortunate and pointless trip to VT from MN to find a home was intermingled with hatred and anger from my siblings. Now, my siblings want to get together and talk about it, sharing our feelings and trying to make sense of the situation. But there really isn't anything to make sense of -- mum is 75, on oxygen, cognitively impaired, physically must move slowly, and dealing with the huge concept of moving, of CHANGE. Mum is difficult and ornery and obnoxious. She's been abusive, both physically and mentally, to all of us, a long time ago. Still a bit mentally 'biting'. But we're grown ups now, right? So, we should just have patience for her inabilities or hardships? I really don't know.
While she was staying with my brother, my mother tried calling me and got my answering machine. She didn't know what to do. She left the phone on and you can hear my brother yelling at her, berating her, in the backgroung. When my siblings and i get together, I'd like to share that recorded message with my siblings, but i don't want to introduce conflict if i don't have to! But, i'd really like him to know WHAT he did at least on one occasion.
Should i share the recorded message? What should i share? What should i say? Am I giving my mother too much leeway (sp?)?
I'm so confused.
I have so much anxiety and depression due to my marriage and a huge part of me wants to leave but there is a small part that wants to stay. I guess I try to remember the good times and how he can be when he is in a good mood! I also have a daughter who loves her life and is very happy with how things are. Although she is not close to my husband/her step dad at all. She sees his anger and rudeness...
I think BP and socal media does not mix too well. I found myself sucked into Twitter. I did cut off my FaceBook along ago. I am now only on Instragram (For my photos). Dunno, I feel relieved a bit. Now I am only on DS and Instragram. I also have my photo website to look after.