just be patient bpgirl you're young and will surely find someone but be careful birds of a feather stick togeather and bps often find people as bad or worse than they are with mental illness.

yup yup, I feel you....

not the dying part, but because my mood and emotional state changes DAILY i find it hard to be in a relationship too, but I try anyway

something like 90-95% of marriages with a BP end in divorce...promising isnt it!
about to go thru one myself. but he's just a dumbass..!!

the statistics for marriages involving a person who has bipolar disorder are especially soberingan estimated 90 percent of these end in divorce, according to a November 2003 article, Managing Bipolar Disorder, in Psychology Today.

THAT WAS ON A NAMI WEBSITE.... but it doesnt mean we're doomed,, it could be that bp's also stay in relationships without getting married...

Ok, I had a 16 yr. relationship end in divorce. Eight of those years I was diagnosed, but not medicated regularly. Both of us had issues, neither really worked on them.

Now I'm in a healthy marriage (together 8 years, married over 2) and we both are working on our issues. Not to mention I've been on my meds regularly the whole time we've been together.

It really does take 2. We're all different, but I know that BP doesn't mean we can't have healthy relationships.

I'm sorry about your situation, BPGIRL.
I hope you can focus on yourself and be well. A healthy person will find another healthy person. If the time is right, someone else will come along.
With that being said, I never thought that us women ever NEED a man. I like the thought of having a partner compliment and enhance our lives. It may sound like bullshit to some, but that's what I feel according to my life experiences. :)
Just focus on you and being well, BPGIRL. Hugs!

thank you luvNhope

Hi, bpgirl!!!
Sigh. I'm so sorry that you're going through a breakup. That's always painful, no matter what the reason or circumstance.
It's always a kick in the ego to be 'dumped', but the truth of it is that they just weren't the right ones for you.
It may be more difficult for BPs to find that 'right someone', but it's certainly not impossible.
Sheesh, Adrienne!!! A 90 to 95% divorce rate!!! I was already at an 80% rate, because of our Autistic son. No wonder I'm divorced!!! I guess we didn't have a chance in Hell!!!!

just wanted to pop in and give you a big hug !!
come here girl !!
hope you feel better honey men suck sometimes xx

thank you rjanie :-)

xx

I think that if BP has been used as a reasonit is simply they dont have the balls to tell you otherwise and it is an easy reason.
My husband and I have been together 17 years and married 15 years. When he left it was for his own reasons.
Your young and there is someone out there for you who will be there for you till the end of time.

Sometimes significant others suck... not men! I've been through this crap too.

Sounds like that guy would have been bad for you anyways. Don't let them get to you, relationships can suck anyways.

I have two failed marriages and one failed common law marriage, I dont know how much bp contributed as I was diagnosed at the time.

I do know that I picked losers, people who had their own comittment phobic issues as well as control and fidelity issues. I think whoever said it is right, be healthy and you will attract healthy people. I never thought I deserved to be happy so maybe thats why i attracted these men. Anyway, I think I can understand how you are feeling.
You are a special person who deserves love from someone healthy and not so selfish which these guys sound. I hope that things improve.

We all need and crave love and most important i think we deserve it.

i think we should borrow Benitro's gun n go shot him , ill do it for you , but we might have a few extras on the way lol

lol. all in the car then! its a 20min journey to his house!