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Forgive me if this is a double post, but I dont' think it went through the first time.
My husband's doc told him to double his dose of Lamictal yesterday after he agreed that he was depressed. Now he says he never said that and he is perfectly fine and promptly went into a rage after not taking the increased amount, only the 150 in the morning. The rage had already been building - (those of you who have a bipolar spouse know several days before when this is happening before they do). However, he is now on his frequent "I don't want to be with you anymore" trip and blaming me for everything, being verbally and emotionally abusive, and is trying to destroy some travel plans that have to do involving my son that are very important to me.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do to get him to come to his senses and come out of this rage? I know nothing so far that I say to him works. Usually I just have to let it ride out and he'll be back to normal and act like nothing ever happened, but I don't have a lot of time or patience left.
I am seriously considering divorce if he ruins these plans I have because it is a very near and dear, once in a lifetime event and I really want to be there. I will never forgive him if he ruins it. He ruins every vacation no matter what but this one is huge to me.
I feel like dying. I am at the end of my rope. Please help.
My husband's doc told him to double his dose of Lamictal yesterday after he agreed that he was depressed. Now he says he never said that and he is perfectly fine and promptly went into a rage after not taking the increased amount, only the 150 in the morning. The rage had already been building - (those of you who have a bipolar spouse know several days before when this is happening before they do). However, he is now on his frequent "I don't want to be with you anymore" trip and blaming me for everything, being verbally and emotionally abusive, and is trying to destroy some travel plans that have to do involving my son that are very important to me.
Does anyone have any idea what I can do to get him to come to his senses and come out of this rage? I know nothing so far that I say to him works. Usually I just have to let it ride out and he'll be back to normal and act like nothing ever happened, but I don't have a lot of time or patience left.
I am seriously considering divorce if he ruins these plans I have because it is a very near and dear, once in a lifetime event and I really want to be there. I will never forgive him if he ruins it. He ruins every vacation no matter what but this one is huge to me.
I feel like dying. I am at the end of my rope. Please help.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
it was totally hard for her, but she stuck to the ALANON philosophy of taking care of yourself and protecting yourself
time and time again she put herself out there and made plans only to have them sabotaged. eventually she learned to live her life.
he came out of a six month "spell" and has been ok since june.
my advice...take care of and protect yourself
as for the vacation..that is so tough...but he should be excluded!
Not a lot of help...I commend you for coming here and trying to help him. Not everyone does the research and it's sooo important.
First, I need to say that I hope that this increase in dosage is slow - a Pdoc will always have someone titrate up slowly - 25mg. for one week, then 50mg....etc. So, it's not like he can even just take however many more mg. and be fine.
FOR ME, on 150mg., I was very irritable and angry. I am on 300mg. now and am doing well for the most part.
I hope someone has a suggestion for you in how to communicate with your husband. My first thought is to use ultamatums, but I have a feeling that could escalate his rage.
Are you able to contact his Pdoc or therapist?
All my best to you during this difficult time!! xoxo