Stop blaming yourself. If you want to spend time with him, then go over there tonight. Offer to help in the preparations. You'll probably have fun. I often think that the things I did not do were the greatest potential and I missed them. Go, have a good time, don't worry about the prep. You're going for him and not the prep, the dinner, or the movie. You're going to spend time with someone you love.

You are over analyzing. I do it all the time. Other people think about it once or twice and go with thier day. We have head racing. Just go over be nice have fun and go home or not:)

he is your Boyfriend I dont know how close you are but thats what couples do they spend time together. If its to much he will tell you he wants to go out with the guys... he offered and he didnt take it back so go. He may be picking up on you questioning if you should be around and think that maybe you dont want to be.... instead of comprehending that your trying to respect the space you think is wants

It's because we're all geniuses and therefore we are always analyzing everything. :)
How's that for optimism?

Thank you guys. I am so awful about over thinking things...my mind moves at a billion miles per hour. I just feel bad that I may have ruined his day, but you guys are right...I think I will go tonight. HUGS to all of you!

Welcome to the club. My mom used to get mad at me because at the ripe old age of 4 I would say what was wrong with the bugs bunny cartoons.

If you are a beeper, your brain works faster. You can therefore fit more thoughts in a day, and you over analyze.

I have found the best thing to do when one of my "tendancies" takes over it to acknowledge it. Then I tell myself "I am XYZ, and I can XYZ for 1 hour" or whatever. Then at the end of that time I give myself permission to do something else. I know that sounds structured, but it's easier than fighting it.

Your BF getting irritated is his own issue. He is in charge of his own feelings. You do not irritate him, he chooses when to be irritated.