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out of control husband part II

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Okay, I found out he has been telling all his friends that he wants to divorce me but is staying for our child, that I am a depressed miserable person whom he has to treat like a small child. When he had some good news I made dinner, appetizers, poured wine and he told his friends I tried to show my happiness for him in my own way but my negativity was spilling out everywhere. I guess he blames me for complaining to my friends about his addictions and now I find out he is doing the same but actually fabricating. I think things are coming to a head. Ihave been trying to stay for our family but I can not trust him anymore with the backstabbing, the lying, the hiding, the internet chatting...I feel like such a loser for being in this relationship and doing this to my child.

I can take open honesty that is hurtful but upfront more than lying, sneaking and smiling with candy and sugar pouring out of your mouth,you know? He's telling all his friends that I am mentally ill and that I have snowed
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All I can say is you will look back and be so happy that you are rid of him. I think your health will improve as well. Sounds like your spending alot of energy on his shit. what would life be like if you didn't have to do that anymore. Think smart and try not to blow up at him. Knowledge is power don't give him all the goods up front, save it for when you really need it.
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My gf of 7 years just broke up with me because of me/my illness. She talked about me behind my back to her parents for years. No wonder they never liked me. I'm actually glad now that she broke up with me. I can concentrate on being well and so can you. Being a good mom with this disability is hard enough - you don't need an addict.
peace, t
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What an asshole. Why do you stay
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As much as it'll hurt to walk away there will be a day when you realise it's the best thing you could have done for you & your child.

Whether there's bipolar involved or not, relationships & marriages sometimes run their course & that's that.

There's nothing wrong with being on your own, go & find yourself, lifes here to be enjoyed, not endured!
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Go to counsoling . Find out what is real and what is imagined. Bp people have a tendancy to see thingss that arent there rather, we see things how we think they should be good or bad. If you are in a negaive state that will taint your views and cause friction. Check it out at worst you can learn something about yourself.
matt
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sorry to hear your hubby is being a childish and insensitive prat. You really could do much better without him, all he is doing is bringing you down. He is of no support to you and you and your child deserve so much more.
Goodluck to you:))
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You know and accept you have problems. Those who try to pin it on another are the ones who are really delusional. Stay in your own power. Don't take on the crap he's trying to push on you. His own insecurities are probably fueling his unkind behavior. Nothing you can do about it. He has his own way to find. Realize thatyou also have the power to find your own way. They just might not be in the same direction anymore. Do what is healthy. Do what is kind to your self. Do what adds to your self respect without having to take anothers. In the end, you can't lose. Best of luck!
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My bf tells his friends that I am crazy and all the things that I do to him, however he has a friend with bp who is mostly always manic and happy but totaly depressed when he is. He has another friend whos brother killed hisself because of his bp. So he is just trying to get their thoughts about how he should handle me.

If your old man is telling all the people that he knows about your problem then he is a total ass who is not trying to help you at all but hurt you in every way that he can and that includes staying with you "for the child" realy he is staying because he knows how he treats you.
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