Well, you sounded rude to me, spewing out all these things she should do and how this isn't helping. Here on the net, it's VERY easy to read a message like that, and see hostility in it if you don't clarify.

Did I say being bashed would make it better? Did I ever once say that? No. I'm not trying to be rude. I just know that a message like that can be SOOO HURTFUL to the person needing support.

We all need more help than the ppl here can offer...all of us.

Girls are strange!

"People are strange, when you're a stranger, faces look ugly, when you're alone. Women seem wicked..."

Haha...wicked! That's what we are!

JOKING!

Gimmechoc, why did you open this post after the last one? Why call wake sick? I know if I call someone sick I usually mean they are sicko, mad. Is that what you mean? Or are you merely reinforcing the fact that she is unwell. Just in case you forgot: we are all sick on here. That's why we are here.

I really don't want to fight with you and it might sound as if I am. I am merely having my say. Please don't be offended.

I also suggest that you don't read anymore of wake's posts if they are going to upset you and/or you are going to reply in an upsetting way to wake. Just advice, you don't need to take it..Hugs.x

Good post, luv!

Geeze --- pissy people tonight!!!

I think the suggestions were just meant to be a means of venting, not to be destructive...nobody is holding a gun to her head.

Being able to vent and tease here is a fine line, as we all need to do it from time to time, however, we do need to bear in mind that we are also in company of emotionally fragile people.

I think that's why little warnings in the titles are a good idea, but how are you supposed to know about them?? Maybe we could come up with some codes, and just start using them, and others will catch on ---

XXX is obvious, but what about others ?
What else would need a warning in the titles?

I think this has been suggested before, but some people flip out and say it just won't work. If I ever post anything like that, I will put something in the title because I'm used to other sites which require a user to do so, but apparently, some other people don't want to do that...I'm not sure why. And even with the warnings, some people still read and flip out. For instance, in an earlier thread where I replied to the poster who started the thread, each of us put a warning in all caps saying it was triggering, yet someone went on to read it and, in my opinion, replied in an offensive manner regarding something he or she had no knowledge of. So some people disregard the warnings, read, and flip out anyway...needlessly.

There's something about this site, in my opinion, that just makes people defensive. Maybe no one would believe it, but I'm the type of person who rarely ever says a mean thing to anyone unless I'm pushed to my limit. Here, I can become irate in a second. It seems many others do as well. Maybe we need to be careful in how we post things....to clarify what we mean so that a post doesn't sound offensive. I dunno. I just know that its easy to read some posts and be offended, even if no offense was meant. We read, and it really hits us where it hurts, and so we lash out.

I dunno what the sollution is.