Sorry I'm ranting,Iv'e just got off the phone to my mum.My parents live in England and look after an elderly woman(previous to this they looked after her husband with alzhimers and I also lived there.Our relationship broke down from the stress and I returned to New Zealand)The problem is that my family desperatly want to see them and would like them to come out for a holiday but they refuse to leave the lady.She has dissablitites but also has family.When I lived there she was very controling and I fear that she is still controling their lives.My parents blame my family for being too clingy,but think about it they haven't seen them for 10 years!It's doing my head in every time I talk to my mum on the phone,it leaves me angry,sad and helpless.I don't know what to do,there's a huge blame game going on from all sides and I'm in the middle :( I want to be able to talk about normal things on the phone but it nearly always ends up the same...I don't want to cut them off...but sometimes they make me so upset!
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