Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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I've just told my husband about my bp,I thought he would understand, but latly hes changed . he say to me take your meds, but when I do he acts like i'm high or if I stay inbed he thinks I just don't want to be around him. I've to explan to him its not that I don't want to be around him . its just I feel so down I don.t want to be around anyone or hear any kind of noise cause it hurts too bad. I don't know what to do , and I fill like my marrage is going to be over if I don't change , but the thing is I don't know how to change my moods, I try so hard but no matter what my bp seems to always win. maybe I need to by myself. please if anyone can gove some advice I would really try to listen
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BD is a difficult illness to manage in any case, as we know all too well. One of the things that a person with BD must have is the ability to be flexible where they can take care of their basic needs as that is so important to our stability.
The moods caused by our illness, and the medications with their varying side effects, have a great impact on us where sometimes we don't sleep at regular times. Or maybe we get so stressed that we need to get more sleep etc etc.. you know basic stuff.
Having a mate means that you have to consider the other person's schedule. What they do in 'your' space makes a huge difference. Living with someone is a compromise. In the case of someone with BD, those little differences we have with our partners can affect us to much greater degrees. Especially when they cause us to be out of sync with our basic needs. Little things can become huge monsters. Then there's the situation where they may see us in a whole different light knowing we have a mental disorder.
Sometimes they even abuse us because of it... verbally or in other ways.
Sorry to ramble so much but I just want to reiterate how happy and healthy I am being single. I have not been hospitalized since I've been on my own. I hope something I've said may have helped.
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My daughter recently told me that she might limit my access to grandchildren if I don't get better. Thank god she doesn't have any yet. We're powerless over others. The most constructive thing you can do is research BP and do your best to comply with recommendations and your med schedule. I'm sorry you're having so much difficulty.
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My situation is very similar to ComputerBob's. I do know how difficult it is when you aren't stable on meds. But, if you can get there, therapy, working on your marriage and trying to educate your husband will be easier to do. Meds alone will not improve our situation.
In the meantime, maybe trying ComputerBob's suggested book could help? Or, is there a way he could come to DS and read posts showing that it's not just you - that it really is a chemical imbalance?
I hope some of our suggestions can help in some way. Keep asking questions and reaching out. I pray that soon he will understand that it isn't you...it's BP.
In looking back I certainly had my part in it, but it takes two in a relationship, not just one.
Unfortunately, some people look at bipolar as not a real dysfunction.Shoot sometimes I forget I have it, but not for long.
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