Hypersexual behavior is common in bipolar people. It does not mean that he will cheat, but you do need to be aware that the hypersexual behavior is there. Medicines and therapy do help. Also having a support system does help. Establish parameters before going back to him. Tell him what behaviors are acceptable and unacceptable and what the consequences are. Stand firm and be strong. You're going to have to be because the first time you don't hold the consequence true then there will be more rules broken.

He is maniac....he can't get enough and when he cheats he is in the moment and then beats himself up for months to follow.

I can handle the modd swings for the most part. My daughters and I call it hos PMS time, but I am concerned about going back into the rut. He has never been treated for it and it does not help that he has an adicitve personalitly as well.

There is so much to learn and understand about this disorder. There are many different symptoms for all of us. Hypersexuality is one of them when I am manic. I have never had an affair because I am very close to my husband and he knows when I am like this and need to be close. It is my opinion that having a psychiatrist and therapist is very important in your husbands treatment. Meds take a while to get right, but are very necessary in the treatment. If you hope to make it work after all the work you have experienced it will be necessary for you too to seek therapy to heal your hurts and start over. I cant express enough how important it is that you make yourself very educated about bipolar disorder. Be very open with each other and communicate about everything. This is a hard choice for you, please dont go back into it unless you are sure you can handle it. There is no overnight cure or quick fix. It will be a part of his life and possibly yours forever in some way. I am here if you need to talk. My heart aches for you and I lift you in prayer for your journey. Hugs, Shelly

Thank you shelly. I am actually in therapy for myself to get over all the pain and hurt he has caused me. So I am working on myself. I have dealt with it for 13 years without medicine so with him now taking it I am almost feeling like I can breath again, I cross my fingers for him. I would never give up on him, but it frustates ne at times.

If he is addictive, he had better not be on any substances while on his meds or he will not see any accurate progress.

Hypersexuality does not equate with cheating. That is a bulls*it excuse.

some people act really strangew when they are manic some like to shop some like to steal some like to get into fights we all have habits that we do when we are manic our minds are in a whole different world when we are manic