Bipolar Disorder Support Group
Bipolar disorder is not just a single disorder, but a category of mood disorders marked by periods of abnormally high energy and euphoria, often accompanied by bouts of clinical depression. This is the place to talk about your experience with bipolar disorder, learn from others' experiences, and find support.

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I have been seperated from my wife for a little over 2 months now. I am so lonley physically (sexually) and emotionally since the seperation. My wife wants to see me stable but does not want anything to do with me beyond figuring out financial situations and making sure my son is affected as little as possible because of the seperation. Being Bi-polar I am hyper sexual to begin with so not being able to be with my wife is very difficult for me, porn is not the answer if fact it was part of the problem. I have been able to resist the temptation of porn so I am very happy about that. I have been taking care of myself with thoughts of my wife and I but I cry when I am masterbating and am getting little to no satifaction from it now. I do not want to cheat on my wife because that would end the marriage for sure (I still have hope of putting my marriage back together once I get stablizied). I am weakening and am afraid I will go out and submit to my sexual desires. I am looking for any advice that may help me through these long lonely days and nights with using porn or another woman. My wife is not willing to be with me at this time and I don't know if she will ever want to be with me again. Thanks in advance for any advice.
Ron
Ron
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Is she willing to try marriage therapy?
It's about the only thing at this point that MAY save your marriage.
Good luck
I do not know if we will be able to put this marriage back together but I don't want to do anything else that will end the marriage. Having sex with another woman would be the end of the marriage for sure.
Thanks again for any advice.
Ron
Thanks for your answer
Ron
Once trust has been breached, it is a long, hard struggle to get it back.
My heart goes out to you (I'm very hypersexual, too) and loneliness is an absloutely horrible feeling.
I don't think there's an easy answer or fix for how you're feeling right now.
I think it would be so much easier for you to take a pass on looking elsewhere for sexual gratification, if only you could be sure that you and your wife WILL get back together, at some future point.
Can you have such a discussion with your wife? Not about the sexual aspect, but just about the possibility of you two ultimately getting back together? Is there a real chance of it coming to be?
Even if it's not, try your best to keep your eye on the prize!! What you would be looking for in another relationship would be an empty substitution for what you really want. On a purely sexual level, it would be a very momentary pleasure that would leave you feeling worse than you already do.
And if any sexual behavior on your part led to the current state of affairs, you're wife may very well be waiting to see if you can be trusted in this area.
Good luck. I truly feel sorry for what you are going through now and hope that you and your wife can find your way back to each other!!!!
Ron
It's kinda like alcoholics ANNON.
You attend the meetings to help you towards the GOAL of sobriety(in your case stability).If she says she's going to wait untill you are stable...well,that could be a long time.Some of us here on this board have struggled 5 years-up to 10 years with trying to find the right meds to stabilize us.
You and your wife...if ,you are going to make it as a family...must ATTACK(and I mean attack!)your bipolar disorder together..HEAD ON TOGETHER!If she won't go to marriage counsuling..ask her to go with you to see your Pdoc..maybe your Pdoc can outline to her clearly what the two of you have to face.If she's not willing to particapate in your treatment......I think you are in for some hard times bro!
I get one sentence responses to long emails where I pour my heart out. I have taken full responsibility for my actions only using the Bi-polar as an explanation for a reason why these outburst and anger happened. All I hear is it is too soon and she needs time. I am so fucking confused and lonley, she had and has her mother to confide in and I have no one at least until I found you guys :) Thanks for your concern and help.
Ron