I think my partner has felt very similar to what you're feeling now. Is she getting all the right help?

what exactly does she do? is she on meds?
i know my hubby is going thru a lot with me right now, not because i say mean things, but b/c he is sick of me having to deal with bp.
it takes someone with a lot of patience to be with someone with bp...i would say don't give up on her...i can give more advice if i know more.

She is on meds but my inability to be able to finish an honest conversation about hoe I feel is wearing me down.

have you considered going with her to a doc appt.? maybe her doc can help, or at least give you some coping strategies.

I haven't gone to her doc appt, however I do go to her support group metings and they seem to help her but how I feel and what she has said and done to me seems to always be brushed aside.

i would higly recommend going to see her pdoc with her, or consider couples therapy...my pdoc actually does couples therapy too, which is great if my husband ever needs to go with me and get some support.

is she on medication?

yes, if she is having that much trouble her doc should know so he can change or adjust her meds. it is great that you are sticking by her, its scary to be bi polar and have no one to rely on.

Please do not take this in the wrong way, sometime reading words you don't get the intended emotion. If you really want the problem to get better, and work out. Get you hands in there and help her fix it. Give it your absolute best shot. And as previously mentioned it does include going to at every pdoc appointment in the beginning of the newly turned leaf of a new plan. In a lovingly, compassionate way, not a controlling way. Not that you are. You do not come across in that way at all to me. But, if you decide you cannot do this anymore at anytime, and you haven't given this your best shot you may regret the choice you make. When and if after you've done everything you can and you still cannot help her and you leave you will have documentation for your side of the courts that you are the most fit parent for custody. If after digging in and fighting for your wife's mental health she may have the stability you are looking for and you may be more happy and have the family you've always dreamed of. Best wishes. A

There is also a new community here "Family/Friends of Bipolars". They would have more info/tips for you as they also deal with it every day.

Yes, come & see us in the Friends & Family community!

It can be hard when your loved one is unwell & it always has to be about them, it's easy to lose yourself amongst it all.

Hold her hand & try to concentrate on getting her well again so things can slowly start being about you again too.
As bipolar supporters sometimes we have to put ourselves on the backburner, much the same as when we have kids & they have to come first!

Find something to do just for you, whether it's taking a daily walk, learning a new craft, something that has absolutely nothing to do with bipolar & everything to do with you. Routine can bring comfort to a family, arrange a night each week where you take the kids to the movies?

Working together as a family helps but I know how hard it can be when sometimes all you feel like doing is collapsing in a drained heap.

Sometimes (and it sounds like your wife fits) We (BP people) dont always SEE the damage we are doing nor do we see when we are in a bad place until its to late. My Husband will often call my doc and tell her whats happening. Or my case worker who is easier to get a hold of. At first it made me mad and he told the doctor that too... and after a talk with my doctor I understood. You are able to see the changes sooner then she is and can stop the cycle befor it gets to bad. It also sounds like you could do with some counciling both together and seperately. Its not just people with mental and emotional problems that need some one to vent to. Going to a councilor doesnt imply your mentally unhealthy but can mean just the opposite. If your not at your full strengh being supportive to her will be very hard....